Behaviour of the Wife

[najeeb786]

Re: Behaviour of the Wife

As you have mentioned these issues are not really issues and the wife needs to realise we are not going anywhere for the moment and be patient. If she cant be bothered adapting or isnt putting enough effort in then it is something that she needs to look at. Behaviour like this will continue if we move to our own place is she is like this now.

@Stork

@najeeb - You keep saying that you need to save. How much do you need to save anyway? Are you planning to move in to a mansion? By the time you’ve saved enough the ship would’ve sailed with you wife in it. Get a decent place for ~100K (depending on where you are), pay 5% down or get some sort of first-time homebuyers benefit. If you can’t save enough then rent a 1 bedroom place for the time being.
I think you need to separate the mom and the new bride first and then try to figure out all these issues in your life. I think most of these are non-issues anyways.
I understand that you feel guilty about abandoning your mom but you’re not doing her a favor by making her feel like she’s causing issues between her son and his wife. I am sure your mom wants to do things on her own as you’ve stated (go to Pakistan).
Just get a small place (or rent). Tell the wife that you’ll be spending 2 days a week (1 day of the weekend) with your mom and your family. Tell her that she is welcome to join but if she wants to visit her family or do something on her own during that time, she’s free to do it.