Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat

[Paheli00]

Re: Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat

@Majazi_Khuda

I definitely see that I rubbed you the wrong way but I am not going to apologize for that cause you are just twisting and turning my words.

I dont care what couples do behind their closed doors but there was a time when things were arranged in mind to keep the probability of consummation, higher.

For starters, wedding dates were set by Larkee walay. That date was based as such, so the wedding night does not fall during the ‘special monthly cycle’ of the girl. Now a days dates are set based on when the wedding hall is available. In fact not many people know why historically ‘larkee walay’ used to pick the date.

I hope this one example shows that how much importance ‘behind the door activities’ were given, even by others, Cause after all that is what marriage is all about.

Firstly, you did not rub me the wrong way and I am not asking or expecting an apology for you for any reason.

As for your “history” lesson…2 comments:

1. Times have changed. I can’t comment on the way things are done in Pakistan/India etc. But at least here in the U.S., among my own social circle, the bride/groom both play a major part in planning the wedding. Wedding date, venue, guest list etc. are not “decided” on by the parents without consulting the bride/groom.

2. Just because things were done a certain way back in the days…that doesn’t make it “right”. There was a time where the bride and groom saw each other for the first time on their wedding day. Do you know anyone who got married within the last few years and NEVER met or spoke to their fiance before the wedding day? I don’t. So yes…there was a time when both families discussed the girl’s period cycle to come up with a wedding day but that doesn’t mean that it should still be done today.

Furthermore…just b/c the families picked a wedding date when the girl’s not on her period…did that GUARANTEE that the couple would have sex on the first night?

Going back to my original view…you do what you feel is right for you and your marriage. Let other couples do what they feel is right for theirs.