Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat

[Majazi_Khuda]

Re: Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat

@Paheli00

Firstly, I’m very amused by the fact that with ALL the other things that’re happening in todays world…with ALL other other things that are part of a wedding/married life…you’re making “observations” about other people’s sexual activity (or lack of) in THEIR wedding night.

1. It’s upto an individual couple to decide what’s “too much” when it comes to their wedding ceremonies. There is no 1 particular way that’s “right”. I know couples who did 5 full days of non-stop “events”. On the other hand, I know couples that just had 1 single reception.

2. Again…back to a couples individual priorities. Whether or not sex should be given a high priority on the wedding night is upto the couple themselves and I see no reason for others to force their views on this.

Even without all the fancy wedding ceremonies…even with a simple nikah/dinner where the couple is in the bedroom by 9:00 p.m…what if one of them has a headache? Does a simple nikah GUARANTEE that the couple will still not be tired (physically or emotionally)? What if the couple is just not “in the mood”?

My personal views: Let other couples worry about their own wedding night and what happens between them behind closed doors. You worry/think about your own wedding night and what’s a priority to YOU.

I definitely see that I rubbed you the wrong way but I am not going to apologize for that cause you are just twisting and turning my words.

I dont care what couples do behind their closed doors but there was a time when things were arranged in mind to keep the probability of consummation, higher.

For starters, wedding dates were set by Larkee walay. That date was based as such, so the wedding night does not fall during the ‘special monthly cycle’ of the girl. Now a days dates are set based on when the wedding hall is available. In fact not many people know why historically ‘larkee walay’ used to pick the date.

I hope this one example shows that how much importance ‘behind the door activities’ were given, even by others, Cause after all that is what marriage is all about.