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You have some very unrealistic expectations. Why everything is needed to be done now, why can't you work on things later. Why do you need the chairs now, why do you need brand new curtains now, etc.
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First world problems in a third world country :halo:
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How do I get my husbands support? My mil doesn't want me to change the curtains either. I spoke to my husband a while back and he said he spoke to his mom and she's saying she got everything changed quite expensive.. So don't change.. I calmly said ok.. But I'll change after I'm there in 2-3 months. He said yes you will change then. This is the reason why marriage sucks. :) in my house I don't have to ask anyone for anything before doing. I tell them and parents agree...
how are you any different than your MIL? you both seem to do things your own way without asking or taking advice of others. if in your house you are used to do things without asking anyone else then your MIL is doing the same in her house.
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Wheres the second world, I always wonder lol
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sorry to say but you sound extremely immature for marriage.
i have read all your posts on thsi forum and every issues thay you have discussed are actually petty issues. you seem to be overthinking and this creates bitterness in you towards your in.laws.
take things positively and you will be happy. furniture can wait, shopping can wait, and you need to wait for your mil to develop friendly and loving feelings for you. be patient.
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sigh Okay. I will tell you exactly what you want to hear: You are right and are the mazloom and mistreated one, and your MIL/jethani/FIL are all wrong. You are being mistreated by them all. Your MIL is favouring your jethani. You will not only now, but always receive the cheaper/lower quality or disliked option - be it the room, clothes, jewelry or furniture.
Khush??
Even if all of the above is true - that your in-laws favour your jethani in all things and you receive lesser quality/valued items - you need to decide what it important - the value of items or the relationships, the most important of all the relationship with your husband?
It may be that even by exercising sab'r you will never get the same status in your in-laws heart as your jethani - but does that matter? What should matter to you is that your husband loves you and that he is doing his best by you. In terms of your actions - you are responsible for those. If you throw a temper tantrum, it will reflect badly on you and your parents. If you exercise patience - it may never be acknowledged, but at the very least - you will know you did the right thing and it is one less thing to be judged about - you will have made your husband, your conscience and your Allah happy. That is its own reward.
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Hey i have seen some of your posts and have some questions for you. i am guessing you are based in Pakistan and your inlaws spend time out of the country. exactly how rich are your inlaws? and whats ur husbands financial status? how old are u and what do u do?
how much lower in financial status and living standards is your family from your inlaws? how long have u known ur husband and when was the nikah done? once you answer these questions i will give you a better prespective about your questions and issues.