Beauty is more than skin deep...

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Bidaai, the drama, is under discussion here.

A summary 4 those who dont know what im talking about

Beauty is more than skin deep…
Bidaai is a story of two sisters, Sadhna (beautiful) and Ragini (unattractive). Sadhna is the adopted child in the family.

Life is pleasant for Sadhna as she is beautiful but society is a bit rude and harsh on Ragini, who faces a lot more challenges because she is not good-looking.

Both the sisters love each other immensely and are good natured but society’s approach towards them makes Sadhna’s life difficult as her mother starts differentiating between them. Sadhna is treated like a step-daughter in the house and feels punished for her good looks but Ragini loves her unconditionally.

All-in-all, the story is about these two sisters whose ‘looks’ determine their happiness. This unique story embarks the journey of two sisters and makes one question the belief - “Are beautiful people happier than ugly Bettys?”

Now the ragini who is dark (but very stunning and pretty) is getting to vansundhras son , they are from a rich family and the woman hates ragini because she is unattractive, dark and not up to her standard.

When will people understand that what true beauty is… it doesnt lie in fair skin alone :smack:

Lets talk about people who know people who think that gori skin is everything…

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That drama is an exaggeration :chai:

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Beauty is skin deep true. But please people shouldn't start thinking that they will get rich, good looking guys/girls watching the show.

But on a lighter note guys should think like that i.e. beauty is skin deep when it comes to girls...

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Are albinos like considered studs in india and pakistan?

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sadhna is the step daughter...( i know thats not the topic but i thought id point it out)
ofcourse beauty is more than skin deep but the society we live in will never change
moms always want gori dil's ..... even if they dont think ppl with dark skin r ugly or anything they will prepfer gori girl over dark girl....

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Is it just MILs? Are there boys who want the same in their future wives? How many men think this way as well?

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Guys these days don't really go for "inner" beauty.. I recently had an argument with our managing director over the same issue, he's been conducting interviews for a marketing manager and he shortlisted 3 of the prettiest candidates where one slightly chubby girl was FAR more dynamic and spontaneous!

Same thing when it comes to real life partners/spouses, they all say "looks don't matter" but in real they do :)

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Gooray rang ka zamana kabhi ho ga na purana --humaray loog b na

^ agree wiv u Gina in real they do demand for beauty

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ahh...surely world will simply cease to exist if this question of white-v-black is not answered in this thread.

LB ... you forgot to mention sanwali saloni....was it unintentionally or deliberately to add weight to your comment...?

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I don't disagree that men (and perhaps women as well) prefer attractive and good looking people of the opposite sex.

My questions is, does skin color matter as much? Perhaps it is a must for MILs, but do their sons care as much? Perhaps a guy wants to marry a hottie, but how much does her complexion matter? Is this generation as caught up in gori vs sanwli as our parents were? And is this paradox more or less apparent in different parts of the world (i.e. the west vs the east)?

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har aik ki preference hai...in every way...color...height...width...just bcos some ppl don't find black attractive...doesn't mean they are racists or backwards....there are ppl who can't stand white ppl...what would you call them? humans with opinions?

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Alot of ppl these days look past the color (if just looking at desis). it's the boys stupid mothers that say "i dont want a kaali dulhan." :) personally i find it sick that a mother should have any say in how the girl LOOKS (just looks!). but whatevs.

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^ and the funny thing is the the son’s mom are kaali themselves. :smack:

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ha ha ha

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I know of a mother who rejected a potential match for her son. The girl was an MD, had a nice apartment (but lived with her parents), was absolutely beautiful. Why did the mother reject this girl? on the basis that she had dimples.

:eek:

WTH??? I think dimples are cute!

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Zaroor, har aik ki preference hoti hi, laykin I am asking, is this still a valid preference for the youth of today?

For instance, some generations ago, a woman's education and profession did not matter to potential suitors. As long as she had completed the basic standards higher education was not a must. Of course today, a well-educated, erudite bahu is a quality that most MILs look for. In the past a daughter in law working outside the home was frowned upon, now MILs are happy to say, "my son the doctor is also marrying a doctor!" And even if education is not important to in-laws, in this day and age, every young man is looking for a partner that is interested in higher learning.

Suffice it to say, once where a woman's education and profession did not matter, this generation has proved that these qualities are highly preferred in a partner.

In the same token, have we broken out of the skin-color mold? Are our young men disregarding the notion that white is alright and black is whack? Just as they have started to appreciate the value of a sound education, have they also started to recognize the uselessness of skin color?

I understand that we each have personal preferences and that is natural. To look for a mate that is intelligent, hard working, honest, kind, sincere, just and yes, even attractive is understandable. But has skin color become passe?

Isn't it as highly subjective, relatively useless and ridiculously picky as looking for a bahu with green eyes, long black hair, slender fingers or delicate feet?

And finally, is dark skin still considered ugly or unattractive? Are our young men (and women) finally realizing that people of all skin tones are seriously sexy?

(This is a topic that is near and dear to me, as I had a very close, very masoum cousin who's forced engagement was ultimately broken because her fiance often reminded her that he did not chose to marry a dark skinned girl like her. It kills me because she has gorgeous features and a lovely figure. If her skin was lighter, people would write poetry about her. But she's getting the short end of the stick because she lives in a country where such things are still practiced.)

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I know a mother who rejected a girl because she was too flat chested! Crazy people!

She wanted somebody curvier like this woman :nuch:

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Sara, I know your intentions are not wrong here, but the idea of people "looking past color" really bothers me.

Why are we looking past it? As though it is some sort of affliction that one has to deal with or ignore? He can look past her bow feet or lazy eye or crooked teeth; these are all obvious imperfections. But why would we look past skin color and not embrace it? Know what I mean? Perhaps in this situation it was just a matter of poor wording, but it still stands that this is the mentality of many.

Frankly, we cannot change the minds of our mothers. But WE decide what the collective Pakistani mentality will be in the future. And we determine what biases and prejudices our children will maintain as well.

We shouldn't be telling our boys, "Yes you can marry her even though she has dark skin." We should be telling them, "She has a lovely golden complexion and you should marry her because she is a beautiful girl." There is a huge difference between basic tolerance and complete acceptance.

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Spot on. I have noticed people say,"She's pretty but has dark skin". As if she'd be prettier if she didn't have dark skin.

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Maybe a poor choice of words on my account, but no i don't think dark skin is a "flaw" to look past but rather a part of someone... It should be that "she/he is beautiful." Full-stop. Not.. "she's fat but pretty." or "pretty but dark." I wish people would realize how stupid they sound when they say these type of things.