How was that statement like speaking about him like a dad or uncle? And as far as I know, I respect my Dad and my Uncles...
So yeah. This thread is not about stuffed up interpretations of Islam, thanks.
You don't like beards, that's fine but please don't turn your discussion into a fiqhi issue. Keeping beard is a tradition of all the Prophets(peace be upon them) and Jews and Christians and Muslims have been following this tradition from the begining.
I've seen many men without beard who dress up like the Prophet(SAW) or follow other sunnahs, there's no strict rule that if you follow one sunnah you have to follow others too because even if you follow one sunnah you will get the reward for it.
Let's not judge people by their looks as Jaanwar explained in his post. Beard is a non-issue in my opinion.
I stopped chatting with him BECAUSE he has a beard. He just looks way too...EW. Dude needs to trim it at least.
That's what I dont get - fine, if it has religious significance to you, then GREAT. But CAN'T YOU TRIM IT AND KEEP IT NEAT??
Why is that hard? 90% of the mullah boys who are young Pakistanis are keeping the bushy kind. The kind that biryani ke chawal can get lost in and you'd have to go in with tools to fish them out.
COMON.
And whatever Hareem. We girls can choose to accept it or not. Your hotness had something to do with why he chose you.
I stopped chatting with him BECAUSE he has a beard. He just looks way too...EW. Dude needs to trim it at least.
That's what I dont get - fine, if it has religious significance to you, then GREAT. But CAN'T YOU TRIM IT AND KEEP IT NEAT??
Why is that hard? 90% of the mullah boys who are young Pakistanis are keeping the bushy kind. The kind that biryani ke chawal can get lost in and you'd have to go in with tools to fish them out.
COMON.
And whatever Hareem. We girls can choose to accept it or not. Your hotness had something to do with why he chose you.
I totally agree with you and I think you should've told him this before you stopped chatting with him.
Oh I did. His retardedness then came out clear as day. He's like, look I do the beard to keep girls away from me, because I'm so hot. Im like oh ok, good for you. He's like going on and on about how he has to fend off girls (which by the looks of his shakal, I found laughable). Then, he says the most UN-MAULVI THING EVER: Oh you know, a girl I knew once asked me if I can show her how to put on a condom.
Um, ok, weird horny desperate bearded mullah boy - never speaking to YOU again.
Keep reading...I did let him know what I thought of it. Nearly everything I wrote in my original post is lifted from my conversation with him. That's what inspired this thread. Anyone who knows me in real life knows I'm just as blunt in real life.
Oh I did. His retardedness then came out clear as day. He's like, look I do the beard to keep girls away from me, because I'm so hot. Im like oh ok, good for you. He's like going on and on about how he has to fend off girls (which by the looks of his shakal, I found laughable). Then, he says the most UN-MAULVI THING EVER: Oh you know, a girl I knew once asked me if I can show her how to put on a condom.
Um, ok, weird horny desperate bearded mullah boy - never speaking to YOU again.
so how much exactly had to do with the beard? sounds like he was just a weirdo. you know how to pick 'em.
Um, all that came AFTER I saw the beard and raised the issue of the beard with him. He didn't start out talking like that. He was initially a nice person who was talking about how it frustrates him that there is a culture of Pakistani boys screwing over Pakistani girls for their own self-gain.
We had like two or three conversations in total. They were all good, until that last part I just posted about his insistence on how hot he is. I think he's just desperate.
Well the plot was over at that point. And so I raise the topic here. Would you go for a boy who has a beard?
At first I felt superficial, and then oddly enough, the boy was fairly superficial of himself as he was in a delusion that all girls are in love with him and I'll be missing out on his hotness.
I don't think a statement like that is one that will shock you. In fact I don't think many things shock you ... Perhaps you are looking for reasons not to commit?
And anyway, what prompted him to say that?
Okay I'm not having a go at you ... Let's be reasonable here ... at least he didn't ask you that question !!!
Okay no one is perfect ... and the reason why I married hareem01 was because of a number of things one of which was looks, but before looks was mental compatability and her innocence. Also, she had a very strong sense of tradition and that seemed amazing to me.
Write down on a piece of paper 5 things that you would like to see in a potential husband ... if that bearded brother fits 3 of them then try to get him to understand that you are looking for a mature man and not a person with a humour of a teenager ... It could work he may change for you!
Beards are an acquired taste ... but we aren't asking you to eat them ... You'll see, the fewer things about someones character that you have to complain about, then the less likely the beard will be an issue for you.
And definitely not looking for reasons to marry a perv. If he did not have a beard, you’d probably tell me to get the hell away from such a creep. But because he has a beard, all of a sudden he has the “humour of a teenager”?
What kinds of teenagers have you met? I’ve never seen a muslim teenager behave in such a cheap way so directly.
And what did I do to provoke such a statement? Of course, it is always the girl’s fault in the minds of traditionalists like yourself. Let me tell you something. Guys out there, if they are not serious about their roles and responsibilities as MEN, will take any opportunity to throw in a sleezy statement. They dont need to be provoked. It happens because their parents did not teach them how to respect girls. Because SOCIETY didn’t teach them how to respect girls.
And most importantly because of PEOPLE LIKE YOU, who these guys KNOW will never come after them, but rather will come after the girl with questions like “So what did YOU say to him to bring him to such conversation” and “What did you do to tempt him”? They know this is the reaction people give, and so they continue to behave in a sleezy way. They know they will never be punished for it, but a girl will.
So, good job, you thekedaars of Islam. Good job :k:
Your beards mean khaak. Just the fact that you’re asking ME what did I do as if its **my fault **I’m being spoken to inappropriately shows me how little you understand of Islam, and how little respect you have for muslim women.
