You know quas, i've been married three years MashaAllah and during that time, i've encountred too many people who have given me lectures about zina and non muslim and marriages with them. Most of them have done this without even first asking if he was muslim. . . that i think is rude. You too did the same thing.
I'm fairly certain that was the rudeness Sara was referring to.
As far as Anil is concerned. It's very convenient that he didn't get what I said in my last post. I don't need to add more, I think Sadiyah said it perfectly.