Baree vs. Jehez

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@PSquared

Man, I wish I was this particular about my Jehez or Baree.

Im not trying to sound self-righteous here ladies…I promise. You have your entire life ahead of you to shop and spend as you please…why spend even a minute arguing or getting upset about these things? I really dont care if my MIL gets me one outfit or a million, what they look like or how much gold she gets me or what quality it is. I never even thought about what she was going to get me until someone else asked me about it. I wish I was pickier…maybe that would put more pressure on her to get me nicer stuff or something. But I keep thinking, who cares? I ask myself if it really matters to me…turns out it doesnt. I’d be happy if she gave me nothing at all…I am my own woman and dont need someone else to buy me clothes or gold to tell me how much I am worth to them.

You guys need to stop stressing about what you get in your Baree. If you want something done your way, do it yourself. If you like expensive clothes, buy them yourself. Dont expect others to spend just as much money on you as your mothers, fathers, fiances or even you do. It wont happen. A mother’s love is unconditional…you cant compare it with your MIL’s love for you!!! If you talk back to your mother, it wont show up in your Jehez…but if you do the same with your MIL…it will show up in your Baree. The two are incomparable.

If you have a MIL that does spend generously on you, that is a blessing! If not, its not something she is required to do…remember…these are all GIFTS…not your RIGHT. You cannot demand things from inlaws or expect them to give you tons of gifts and presents. You will be disappointed your whole life if you do and might even start to harbor negative feelings for them. Why do that?

My sincere advice to you Candy is to accept these GIFTS with grace, say thank you and be happy you even got something from her. This is the beginning of a new life for you, make every effort you can to start it out right. If you allow yourself to get annoyed with the clothes she gave you, you’ve already started out on the wrong foot. Ignore it, smile and show her you will not be a typical Bahu.

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Excellent post :k:…exactly what I wanted to say.

Girls please don’t fret too much over clothes. If you don’t get clothes to your liking it’s not the end of the world!

And please do yourself a favor and never compare your mom’s to your mils.

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