Haha - I just saw this telefilm on Geo - dunno if you guys caught it - Dilm Mein kuch tho Hai
Bantwa Memons have a big dowry tradition which is portrayed here in the drama. They give off their daughters for excessively big dowries.
Girl’s parents will buy the couple - anything and everything from their appliances to a house.
Discuss.
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oh 
someone got to it before hand! Faisal you fast thing you.
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Where does the name "Bantwa" comes from? Is it a place or something else?
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I think so. I think its a place in India.
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Have neither seen the drama nor do I know about these Bantwa memons… but I think I have seen many people who give away huge dowries, like a house, latest model car, all appliances, home furniture, all paid honeymoon for the couple etc. and I am pretty sure they are not just memons. So what else is special about Bantwas?
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Its not about Bantwas. Its about their stupid culture, which you say other stupid people in Pakistan share. Good to know the cousins of my people aren't the only one.
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yeah i heard that dude :p
whats up with that?
the whole dowry thing seems totally retarded to me
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Oh, so this is a dowry bashing thread. Ok ok. Carry on.
I thought this is about a specific type/caste of people. Nevermind.
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nai Faisal bhai i have heard memons go totally overboard with this dowry thing
apparently they buy the guy a house, car, furnish the house and everything PCG is that true???
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What I have heard and seen is that memons are generally very good businesspeople, very rich and don't spend all that much on others, but rather spend it all on themselves. So that may explain the "outrageous" dowries too. Kaheen tau paisa nikalna hai na.
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Yes, they really and truly do. My father was watching this drama with me and he was just telling me how back in the day in Pakistan, the guys would tease each other and ask "So, how much are YOU worth?"
In urdu of course. Forgot the exact sentence, but it was funny.
Doesn't happen with our memon clan i think. At least my dad got jack from his inlaws. :D
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Huge dowries make me wonder if a man is marrying a woman for the sake of marriage alone or for wordly goods?
It also feels that a woman could only be getting married because of the huge dowry that she comes with.
It all sounds so materialist and disgusting to an extent.
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Faisal bhai suna toh ye hae k memon boht “money-wise” aur “kanjoos” hotay haen but also many of them are big philanthropists…like Edhi is a memon…and i have heard that memons do give a lot to charity and Allah kee raah mein
PCG i guess dowry is part of subcontinental culture in general…not just memons…khair is the trend decreasing now? or r u guys still strong on giving huge dowries? i know recently of a memon guy who got married here in karachi and he was given the flat waghera, whole deal
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EDHI IS A MEMON!!!
No friggin' way!
And I wonder why he is never a topic of discussion at our dinners. I'm going to tell the memon uncles they have been idiots all along.
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what kind of a jaali memon r u PCG??? u dint even KNOW that Edhi is a memon?
GOSH kis duniya mein rehti ho larki thats the first thing a new born memon is told, EDHI IS A MEMON 
and the guy who owns ARY is a memon too…i think the head of the memon community…haji abdul razzak yaqoob i think is his name
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You mean you did not get any of that? You only got “bhabhi jan”? 
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a nice fashion in pakistan these days tho is for the groom to resist the idea of dowry to begin with. both my sisters mashallah ended up with husbands like that, and one actually became annoyingly persistent about it.
hope it stays.
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Dowry isn't always about the guy you know. some parents give stuff to their daughter becoz they love her and want her to have the best start to a new life. I don' find n e thing wrong with it if they choose to give her such things..it's when teh groom's side demands all these things, or parents fret that they wont be able to marry her off w/o proper dowry...
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Whats a memon? is it religious sect or type of people.
now this is off thread buts it about dowries,
I have a Nigerian freind who absolutluy hates his wife cos she's lazy and unpleasant etc anway he keeps telling people its because he bought for peanuts. this makes people laugh because he's making out she's cheap and thats why she's bad.
But thats what he did literally, he went to the girls fathers house with his mother and father and a basket of peanuts and asked for the girls hand in marriage and handed over the peanuts.
He's looking for another wife now, He 's a little richer now and can afford to pay with a goat.
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my husband is a memon...I'm Kashmiri....
I think he's Bantwa but I know there are two different types of Memon and ahem...one is nice the other is not but this is according to my cousin's husband who checked his family out for us pre-shadi :)
the Memon's are an ethnic minority group originally from India...very good businessmen, very religious (some say Memon is from the arabic word Momaan (believer).
They tend to be fairly frugal, simple people, not super showy, very generous with family, friends as well as in charity but in a non bragging manner..often hiding their giving..or at least this is how I've seen it with my in-laws.
Regarding dowry. They didn't expect anything from my family HOWEVER, i do know their community spends tons of time hearing/talkinga bout how much a family gave for their daughter's dowry and an apartment, house supplies, car,etc is common. Further the better educated/foriegn educated sons, only sons get more dowry. What gets worse is when the money doens't stop there BUT parents pay for their daughter's medical bills when she's pregnant as well as pay for their grand kids' school....