Grow up Nadz - I work full time so that we CAN afford them. My FIL took early retirement, so guess who pays the bills? My husband and I pay for everything; we pay the bills, we pay for the servants, we pay for the clothes, the trips to America, the shopping, the weddings, EVERYTHING. The family in Pakistan is supposedly too busy paying for their kids school fees so that can't "afford" anything else.
I would LOVE to stay at home, raise my children, and take care of my home, but I do not have that option because of my in-laws, so don't you dare tell me how to do my khidmat. I do my duty to my ILs more than 50 hours a week.
This is not the UK - there isn't a grocery or corner shop every 5 minutes, and we live in the suburbs. There aren't any kebab shops if I want a break from cooking. If we don't stay organized, the house turns into chaos.
I have never asked my in-laws to clean, but so what if someone does? Our ILs are still middle-aged and in good health. Is it good for them to sit around all day watching television.
I know that my MIL has spent her entire life surrounded by servants and couldn't tell a mop from a broom if it killed her. I clean, I cook, and I do the laundry. Is it too much to expect that people will put their dirty laundry in the hamper or help plan the meals a few days in advance in order to make my life a little easier?