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**aunties **ne sub ko tang kya hai:(
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Omg, afro-sheen, i am dying laughing at your comment. i bet the look on that aunty's face was priceless lol..
I just looked at her and told her "pehlay ap koi khoosh khabree de, phir ma"...that pissed her off I guess...cuz she's an aunti aunti...hehe but serves her right.
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Lol one good comeback i have learnt to give one of those aunties who kepp asking about any new ? is "aunty abhi hum practice kur rahay hai"
But at the moment the problem about my mother in law to be is that she is quite keen on grand children and it can be quiet embarrasing coz Hello i am not married yet................................i have had my nikah done and everty time i talk to her its 'wo din kub aye ga jub tum dono humaray ghar mai khusia lai ker aao gai". At first i felt kind of offended espacially since i am not married but then i got over it.
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lol nikkah is marriage.. you can now do anything because its only rukhsati thats missing.. i guess your saas really cant wait lol.
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:k: ^
that’s the best thing to do…in fact the Mrs. should ask you about it right in front of the aunty… “sohail hum kab bachey paida karengey”…they’ll never ask again…i assure you 
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Well despite birth control I've noticed that most couples are pregnant before the anniversary of their marriage. All the girls that got married last year are expecting or have already delivered this year.
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I dunno abt others but they NEVER ask in front of the guy… coz they know the guy isn’t gonna be as easy to tease as the girl… even my MIL wont joke abt it in front of him…
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Ladies I understand u.
When u have the first baby then want to wait for you reproductive system to recover, they say “kya app thak gi hai.. bas itni hi himmit thi?” 
so this mrs shakira is stage 1 for u
stage 2 will be when is the next one coming after baby 1
stage 3 …x if you have all girls, now u have to try for a boy, take it what it costs.
these stages never end, try to ignore and live what u think is right for u,
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I feel for people who endure these questions especially since I went thru almost 3 years of infertility treatments. You cant begin to imagine the questions that people feel free to ask of you - not desis specifically - I mean EVERYONE. I felt like making a big poster for our front yard specifying my hubbys sperm count on it just to shut em all up.
From experience, you need to either embarrass them into silence or tell them off in very plain language. Otherwise it just continues and that can actually be worse in some ways than actually dealing with infertility (or with delaying parenthood for a bit).
There is neither any need to embarrass them nor to give them a hard talk.
Mrs Shikra!
You need to understand one thing, they love you and your hubby. And these are the people who will love your children ( whenever you decide to have them). They will be there when you kids are in need.
Do you really want to embarrass the people who will unconditionally love your kids? Do you want to draw a wedge between yourself and them?
A polite answer is all what you need to give.
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Exactly,
I m in stage 2
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This one time someone asked me if there is any khuhkhabri from my sister.
I said yes. That auntie’s eyes were wide open with excitement and there was a big grin on her face as if she is having a baby.
I then smiled back and said..."Yes, she just passed her step 3." :D
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Allah swt, aisa nice aur sensitive husband seb ko ataa karey. amen. Mrs. Shikra, you are very lucky, mash Allah and so is mr. Shikra. kush rahein dono, mash Allah. :>
best,
Dushwari
lol I am watching too much GEO these days...hey mrs shikra and all others when someone asks for a khuskhabri, say...
Mr. Baby kee taraf say pegam hai...
Khush rahain aur khush rahnay daien :D
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This one time someone asked me if there is any khuhkhabri from my sister.
I said yes. That auntie’s eyes were wide open with excitement and there was a big grin on her face as if she is having a baby.
I then smiled back and said..."Yes, she just passed her step 3." :D
You know that's what's really annoying about these questions. They are interested in nothing but your ability to produce an infant. There may be tons of great things going on in your life, but the only "good news" is about the baby.
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I have been married for 14 months now and aunties are like "kya aap jaan booch kar bacha nahin bana rahein" come on, can one be more annoying than that??????
A few weeks back an auntie called (my husband's distant relative) and asked me to stop worrying about career and start thinking abt children cuz according to her my hubby loves children...indirectly she was telling me that I am the reason for us not having kids yet!! I told this to hubby to his utmost surprice and now I am just ignoring her calls or just letting hubby talk to her...
Once my MIL almost came running to me when she was that hubby and FIl just left the room and asked me "koi khush khabri hai kya" pointing at my stomach - that was bigger than usual cuz i had eaten something I am allergic to....to her dissapointment I just looked at her and said No its cuz of the allergy...
I am just tired of y its only me that these aunties are huntung..y cant they ask mu hubby whoem they are closer related to!!
I am sick n tired of the pushy attitude "ab to aap ki shadi ko ek saal se zyada ho gya hai, ab to aap ke baby lazmi hona chahye"..I am jsut too dumb to reply instantly so I either keep quiet (even when on phone) or I joke about ke Allah ki marzi hai...which again isnt something I wanna say too often cuz they'll start analysing my fertility based on that one...
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Well said, that is true. However, that's with the dadis, par dadis or whoever in the family is involved. Everyone loves to have kids around and who else more than the child's grandparents? But the aunties who have no right to be meddling in your business need to be given an answer. They just prude for no reason, badgering people with ridiculous questions. I even know of stories where aunties have SUGGESTED sexual positions to some girls thinking they aren't doing it right and not getting pregnant.
And these are the people who will love your children ( whenever you decide to have them). They will be there when you kids are in need.
Do you really want to embarrass the people who will unconditionally love your kids? Do you want to draw a wedge between yourself and them?
A polite answer is all what you need to give.
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There is neither any need to embarrass them nor to give them a hard talk.
Mrs Shikra!
You need to understand one thing, they love you and your hubby. And these are the people who will love your children ( whenever you decide to have them). They will be there when you kids are in need.
Do you really want to embarrass the people who will unconditionally love your kids? Do you want to draw a wedge between yourself and them?
A polite answer is all what you need to give.
Best answer so far.
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There is neither any need to embarrass them nor to give them a hard talk.
Mrs Shikra!
You need to understand one thing, they love you and your hubby. And these are the people who will love your children ( whenever you decide to have them). They will be there when you kids are in need.
Do you really want to embarrass the people who will unconditionally love your kids? Do you want to draw a wedge between yourself and them?
A polite answer is all what you need to give.
Very nice post.
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My mother in law is the opposite of typical desi women ......she used to say, " take your time" may be bcoz I was only 19 at that time but I wanted to become mother quickly and now I'm the youngest mum in the family.
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Icon, you're right of course. But sometimes its easier said than done yeah? I mean, we arent talking about just close relatives who will love your children - we;re talking about friends of family, family that that you rarely see, houseguests, neighbors. When you are married and childless, it seems like the entire planet feels free to provide commentary and advice! Add to that daily injections of mega-hormones and you get a rather snarly reply sometimes.