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who will address these issues?

Woman married to 5 brothers

Rajo Verma, 21, is married to five men and they are all brothers.

She said: “Initially it felt a bit awkward. But I don’t favour one over the other.”

Husband Guddu, 21 — the first to make her his bride — insisted: “We all have sex with her but I’m not jealous. We’re one big happy family.”

The couple got hitched in an arranged Hindu marriage four years ago and he remains her only official spouse.

But the custom in their village is she had to take as husbands his brothers Bajju, 32, Sant Ram, 28, Gopal, 26, and Dinesh — who married her last year when he turned 18.

Eldest brother Bajju said: “I consider her my wife and sleep with her like my brothers.”

Rajo cooks, cleans and looks after 18-month-old Jay while her hubbies go out to work in Dehradun, northern India.

She said of the ancient tradition, called polyandry: “My mother was also married to three brothers so when I got wed I knew I had to accept all of them as my husbands.

“I get a lot more attention and love than most wives.”

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this kind of marriage stops further division of agricultural land between brothers...

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so land reforms in India could not address this issue. In Pakistan, this can't happen even though there are no land reforms and a few percent landlords own the lands

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Its funny. I feel that Pakistani authorities should address this issue in accordance to Pakistani laws, do U differ?

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Its not Pakistani issue :alhamd:

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yes...this happens in states like Punjab where agricultural is developed as compared to other states...

Though example cited here is from dehradun(UK)...:D

UK=Uttrakhand

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It has been reported in Pakistani paper, the place from where this issue has been reported is not clear, or it is supposed to be a hoax?

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These kind of marriages are not in custom for centuries, in case U dont know.

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i am not sure..how about you?

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Polyandry in India - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

hope this will help in breaking the myth

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Wont help, coz I said, it is just some exception in this big nation. U can bring it up to show hindus in bad light, just like few hindu dirty heads do it against muslims by bringing out some stray incidents which puts muslims in bad light., plz stop playing this dirty game of mud slinging.

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I dont live in fools paradise and am very close to reality on these issues.

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i never said its common for hindus committing polyandry..first of all....can you show me single post of mine saying that its common in hindus...

here we are discussing a rare custom....

and dont call it a bad custom after all Dropadi committed polyandry.. that may offend our hindu brothers right?

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Good for you..:D

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google it, you will find many links to prove that its a well known fact and not an isolated issue.

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:eek:

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Its not about mud slinging. One of our team member from India (not Muslim) told us this first time, many months ago. The point is why such things happen? Isn't there any law against for these customs?

This also raise question about the Indian land reforms, if we for the time being agree with the statement that its done to avoid division of land.

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Draupadis bloom in rural Punjab - Times Of India

Fraternal polyandry. If it takes a minute for the term to sink in, you’re probably not affected by agrarian crisis the way farmers in Malwa region of Punjab are. Bizzare as it may sound, there is a connection. The problem of fragmentation of land holdings has led to unusual social developments. One being wife-sharing among brothers.
It may be the world’s rarest forms of marriages in anthropological terms, but in Mansa district of the state, this is a reality that stares you in the face. Visit any village of Boha area — Gandu Kalan, Gandu Khurd, Reond Khurd, Bhakhrial, Aan-diawali or Khandkalan — there are families of up to seven brothers married to one woman.

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The reasons are purely materialistic. It prevents the division of the family farm, thus facilitating all of the family to achieve a higher standard of living. It ensures there is one set of heirs per generation…
…“Polyandry helps in preventing division of land,” says Dr Kuldeep Singh Deep, a noted Punjabi playwright, based in Boha town of Mansa.
He adds that publicly the woman is married to one of the brothers, but within four walls of the house there is “mutual understanding” because of which other brothers do not marry and the division of land is prevented. So far as day-to-day family decisions go, there is one brother — usually the eldest —who exercises authority respected by others. The woman, too, agrees to the practice for the well-being of her children
The concept is not new. It has been written about, depicted in plays and generally found acceptance among the farmer fraternity.
Another reason advanced for its prevalence is the importance given to landholdings in the Jat Sikh community, where marriages are settled on the basis of the land one possesses. Preference is always for a groom who has a good landholding or is in government service. With fragmentation of landholdings and high unemployment rate, it is really a Herculean task for a farmer having 2.5 acres land to find a bride for his son.
This is the reason for steady increase in the number of aging unwed boys in rural areas of Mansa, Bathinda, Faridkot, Muktsar and Sangrur districts…
…This is also the reason for many landless/small land holders here marrying Dalit women or bringing women from West Bengal and Bihar after making a payment.
Famous Punjabi writer and Jnanpith awardee professor Gurdial Singh says even before Independence, this practice existed in this part of Punjab, though at that time the reason was not the landholding, but the poor income from it due to absence of proper irrigation facilities
“Now the small landholdings and skewed sex ratio have abetted the problem,” he says, adding, “In Punjab, on an average every farmer family has 3.5 acres land, so the problem is obvious in the absence of major employment avenues.”
Mansa deputy commissioner Raj Kamal Chaudhary says since these marriages are never solemnised in a proper way, they attract no punishment under the Hindu Marriage Act or Indian Penal Code. “Moreover, since such types of relations exist only within the house, no one is raising any objection.”

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strange is the attitude of Indian media, who keep on portraying characters earning 500 crores for breaking marriages, but don’t hilight these issues. Our PTV was much open even during Zia regime to hilight issues like Karo Kari and marriage with Quran for restricting transfer of lands / property. Though the marriage with Quran seems a fairy tale now in Pakistan

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Okay, if we are discussing a rare custom as U said, than its really okay, coz everything of this kind happens in each and every society. Coz its equivalent to prostitution which is common in every society of today.

Hindus will call it bad custom, and draupati who did this is not any religious authority in hindusim. Just for ur kind information.