So how many of you have been to weddings that you thought were really bad. That is the food, the venue, the program etc. Tell us what you didnt like and what could’ve been done differently.
As so many people are getting married in 2008 - Congrats to all! - maybe this thread could be a sort of ‘what not to do’ at your wedding! 
p.s. but let’s not be too mean like, oh the bride and groom looked ugly lol.
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Let's not be rude and criticize peoples weddings. By the Grace of Allah at least there was food, even if it was bad, and there was a venue, bad or not.
What's important is the fact that two people are celebrating their commitment to eachother, and people like you judging what the day consists of is rude.
Shame on you.
P.s. Shame on you, again.
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^ agreed! this is a topic that could lead to a lot of cattiness and *****ing and be really unpleasant... lets not go there.
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Sorry Passionate, i know that wasn't ur intention but we shouldn't go there.... I agree w/ escalade and sgc. :)
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You're right Sara, it wasnt my intention and I bet if Escalade wasn the first to reply it wouldn've turned into that :)
I dont see anything wrong with a what not to do at your wedding thread. But whatever. It can be closed.
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Um its a sensitive subject..lets say someone said “dont do this at a wedding, its bad and tacky and blabla” and…lets say i happened to have that :halo: its just mean. maybe others have thicker skin or im sensitive abt it etc…
Well here’s one DON’T… dont freak out over the little things and dont lose perspective of what’s really important in life?
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I don't think I would call it a bad wedding but maybe a wedding where things could have been done in another way or could have been managed better...or whatever...
Ok, I once went to this wedding where they didn't have enough food for people. Ofcourse no one said anything bad but it just didn't look good.
So a tip... make sure you have enough food for all the people you are inviting.
Another tip... don't waste too much money on party favors, people really don't care all the effort you put in them and most of the times they go to waste. So maybe keep them simple.
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hmmm un organization pisses me off.
Like you go to the wedding and wait a zilion years for everything.. especially the dhulhan..
and it also bothers me if I get there (fashionably late) and the family isnt there yet.
Another small detail… you want to make your guests feel welcomed and appreciated. So I think the host should arrange for everyone there to have thier picture taken with the bride and groom. My mom did that on my wedding she went to each table during dinner made sure they ate and then asked them to join us on stage for a picture.
The little things that count you.
&passionate, I think its okay as long we dont mention specifics.. like how I got sick from the food at Sara516’s wedding. 
I love you moti!!!
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Now you know why I dint eat at my wedding. Popeyes zindabad 
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at one wedding people were throwing bones and salan all over hte floor. That's a pretty gross thing to do, no matter who u are, to waste food and throw it around like that.
Oh and uhm, they were serving qorma.... in a plate. Food was good, but ill never get why they served shorba....on a plate.
Havnt seen anything like this happen at a wedding in US though...
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^ lol, I went to a wedding a couple of years ago from the bride's side where we arrived before the bride's family.
I think it's really important to have a greeting party at your wedding. Someone who greets you at the door and takes you to the wedding hall and seats you.
We had that at my cousin's wedding. All the boys were the greeting party. A couple of em greeted the guests at the hotel door, and then passed the guests along to the other boys to take em to their seats.
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I dont know if it’s something to do with the venue. Like my uncle’s wedding, the shaadi was in a hotel and everybody pretty much ate normally. The valima was at my grandparent’s house and you will not believe the mess we had to clean up after people were done eating 
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Nope, this was in a hall..... but it was a family owned hall so idk.
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^ lol, I went to a wedding a couple of years ago from the bride's side where we arrived before the bride's family.
I think it's really important to have a greeting party at your wedding. Someone who greets you at the door and takes you to the wedding hall and seats you.
We had that at my cousin's wedding. All the boys were the greeting party. A couple of em greeted the guests at the hotel door, and then passed the guests along to the other boys to take em to their seats.
lol... this reminds of this funny incident in Pakistan where the bride's immediate family was late and our family ended up recieveing the barat as we knew both the families. But it was funny...lol
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yeh I think the venue makes a world of a difference ..es in Pakistan
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Escalade, get off your high horse and learn some tact. It’s called progression. Of course people want to know if something is horribly wrong as to fix it in the future. If you refuse to learn from your mistakes, that’s no reflection on the rest of us.
Now, onto my experience.
I was at my friends wedding last year. Of course I wasn’t happy about it because she was marrying a buttface (I’ll omit the real word), and she served chicken cordon blu with bacon in it.
So, as a hint, try to make sure EVERYONE can eat the entree dish. Or make sure that you order extra meals for those who can’t partake in the major dishes.
However, being served at our tables was MUCH nicer than any buffet wedding. So if you’re getting married, please try to budget servers/waiters into the meal.
And if you’re in America, it’s polite to mention if the reception hall offers alcohol or not. That way, all the whino’s will know if they had to bring a flask of their own in 
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Oh....
SMILE! Like.... TRY to look happy...lol. it sucks when the bride (or groom etc) has a pissed off look the entire time throughout the wedding. i was watching one video, where the groom looked so disinterested to the point of bored and annoyed.....til the valima video where he had an ear-to-ear grin. :D
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Oh....
SMILE! Like.... TRY to look happy...lol. it sucks when the bride (or groom etc) has a pissed off look the entire time..
What about the guests? I had quite the look on my face when the grooms brother (and best man), went outside the reception hall to smoke pot and deal drugs with one of the brides' best friends' boyfriend.
:-I
(did I mention how much I disliked her husband and his lot?)
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I remember going to a wedding where on the Walima day, the bride was on her phone/pda thingy the whole time on stage...texting away, while the poor groom was too sharmila to say anything. It just isn't appropriate. Plz no references to my comment :)
Oh & I really like it when on the Walima day, the couple itself walks around & greets everyone, I think its nice & cute.
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One of our family friends got married last month n they ran out of food for the ladies side..buh it wasn't their fault cuz the groom side had brought 100 more people then they had mentioned...i really felt bad cuz the brides mom was crying..buh we all made sure ke sub baration ko khana melley...:)