So kidos are 9 and 6 (well almost 10 and 6), and they share a room and sleep on a queen size bed. The reason we bought them a queen size bed is because they had twin bed of their own and older one was not ready to sleep alone and every night she was trying to convince us to have her sleep with us, or mom should join her on her twin bed.
We were concerned so bought them a queen bed so they can sleep on the same bed. Even now, older one tries her best to get out of that and try to convince us that one parent should sleep with her and other parent with the little one. I understand that all kids want to sleep with their parents, but all parents must be stricter than us. Thing is that more than they want to sleep with us, we want them to sleep with us, so easily give up on their demands. So out of 7 nights, they are in our bed at least 3 nights (well more like one girl with me and one with niks in their and our room).
Yes it is alright. All kids are different and have different needs. You can’t be out of the book. There’s kids who get potty trained at 18 months and there’s kids who don’t until they are 3 or 4. What does it matter at age 22? It’s not like you’re going to sit in a social gathering and discuss what age you were potty trained at.
All kids need is love and security. I think our Bari craves that comfort from us and if it makes her a happy little girl, which she is, and isn’t behind in her development, and we know she isn’t (alhamdullilah), then why stress over it?
I don't think this qualifies as bad parenting but yeah at that age a kid should be okay with sleeping alone. I also kind of disagree with potty training late. Again not necessarily bad parenting but I don't see the point in delaying. Bacha will be tayar to do things when you want them to be ready.
IMO there is no such thing as bad parenting or bad mom so GS should ban these words!
back to the topic.. it depends on the parents priority.. Whe and if we have our baby sleeping in our bed, I cant sleep! its just hwo it is.. I cant fall asleep because I am afraid of squishing him or having the blanket cover his face or whatever those random thoughts I can have during the night time.. so I try my best to keep him in his crib! Sometimes I give in and bring him to our bed but that also means I am usually sleepless and I wake up feeling like a zombie! However, I think its also because I have lost a brother to potentially SIDS so our whole family is against co sleeping! I am probably the only one who lets the baby sneak in our bed!
Besides that, we have the crib in our bedroom and I know several parents who feel strongly against that. We have no intentions of moving him into his bedroom for anotehr year or two so I guess whatever works for one family is what the parents should do.. becuase after all, happy kids is what we want!
I'm curious as to how this could ever constitute bad parenting. I mean whats the worst case scenario; that they want to sleep with their parents till they're 16? That wouldn't be a bad thing would it?
We switched from two separate beds to one queen, so if they want us to sleep with them, one can go to their bed and one can come to our bed. We have extra room in the house, but I dont think that any of them is ready for that.
Younger one is ok with that, Older one sleeps in her room mostly but if given a chance, she would cuddle with her mom every night
Now now, I wont go that far well yes, not on GS though, but this world is full of people who do not deserve to be a parent but unfortunately they are.
that is true
I was not calling it bad parenting. I was asking it if it is.
hahaha no I know but I'm just asking what the reasons for it ever being even close to bad would be?
nice play of words :D
We switched from two separate beds to one queen, so if they want us to sleep with them, one can go to their bed and one can come to our bed. We have extra room in the house, but I dont think that any of them is ready for that.
Younger one is ok with that, Older one sleeps in her room mostly but if given a chance, she would cuddle with her mom every night :D
Now now, I wont go that far :D well yes, not on GS though, but this world is full of people who do not deserve to be a parent but unfortunately they are.
that is true :(
I was not calling it bad parenting. I was asking it if it is.
hahaha no I know but I'm just asking what the reasons for it ever being even close to bad would be?
See, parents separate their babies from day one and have them sleep in their nursery. and here we are that almost 10 years later, we still love to have them cuddle with us. That does not mean that other parents dont love their kids. So are we making our kids weak by making them too emotionally dependent on us?
My 7 yr old twins have a queen size bed they share. My 9 yr old still cannot sleep alone in his own room and will either squish in with his brothers or make the trek to our room. Or one of the twins ends coming to our room because “there wasn’t anymore more room”. That’s when I usually take my pillow to the living room sofa because IMO that is the most comfy sleep space in the house. As you can see, we play musical beds, no one wakes up in the same place they started sleeping
Does that make us bad parents? Meh.
It’s gotten better…I’m sure my boys (and your girls) will eventually grow out if it. I actually am cherishing these last couple of years of attachment…I’m fearing the day when they don’t need their Mama anymore
my nine year old still sleeps with me every night......tried several times to encourage her to sleep in her room but she keeps coming back so I've given up and figure she will go when she is ready.....no hurry at all.
