aoa.
I want your kind response as 0ne of my very sincere friend is in tr0uble.
The scene is , her husband is Muslim and his family is an ismaili family, before getting married her husband had cleared that they will live separate, but as time passed after half and year he changed his statement and said that his father isn’t fine and we have to live together in joint family, his father is n0t a good behaving man at all, on her pregnancy he araised many issues, as she again pregnant n0w he is pretending to spoil their life once again, my frnds husband is misbehaving n forcing for shifting but he does n0t know the real face of his father n family with my frnd.if she tries to tell him he does n0t believe on her and says you are at mistake .
What should she do n0w ?
Re: bad behaving husband!
Father in law trying to molest her?
Re: bad behaving husband!
please give more details as to how the FIL is misbehaving.
Re: bad behaving husband!
give more details. the husband is Muslim, his father is ismaili, then is the husband also ismaili or converted to sunnism or shiaism? is the girl not ismaili herself?
if the case is where the girl is non-Ismaili, the husband married her and converted, and his family doesn't approve of this marriage then your friend is in great trouble because they will continue to try to dissolve this union.
Re: bad behaving husband!
husband is c0nverted. Rest of the family is ismaili. Father in law is taunting on her hijab. When her husband is ouT of h0me he passes harsh c0mments and when her husband is at h0me he shows love for his son. Fr0m the starting they were living separate buT in same c0l0ny thats why his father useD to visit them once in a blue m0on, frnds husband was all kind , resp0nsible, loving and caring buT before 2 days he has changeD his behavi0ur , because my friend is n0t ready to live in a joint family system , her fIL taunteD her oN her 1st pregnancy and misbehaveD , he said why did you take this decisi0n ? You should n0t fall pregnant as early , you sh0uld use .... To avoid pregnancy and many m0re shamelss c0mments in l0ud v0ice , when my frd t0ld the wh0le scene to husband he didnt agree and refused to blv that his father can do so, even her m0ther in law was also there when m0ther in law t0ld her husband he faught with her n said no 1 is allowed to scold my wife etc but he didnt talk to his father, on the same night she miscarried. Her husband went to his fathers h0me and said my baby has died bcz of you n shifted in khi . But after half n year n0w his father has planned a dramma that im n0t fine live with us you r the eldest s0n d0nt ive in khi , i will arrange a job for you ant all that chikni chupri batain. N0w her husband is forcing her to shift hyd with them 4 no reas0n and warned her that if she want accept his decisiön he will divorce her. She is forced to m0ve 4 the sake of her baby and relation
Re: bad behaving husband!
husband is c0nverted. Rest of the family is ismaili. Father in law is taunting on her hijab. When her husband is ouT of h0me he passes harsh c0mments and when her husband is at h0me he shows love for his son. Fr0m the starting they were living separate buT in same c0l0ny thats why his father useD to visit them once in a blue m0on, frnds husband was all kind , resp0nsible, loving and caring buT before 2 days he has changeD his behavi0ur , because my friend is n0t ready to live in a joint family system , her fIL taunteD her oN her 1st pregnancy and misbehaveD , he said why did you take this decisi0n ? You should n0t fall pregnant as early , you sh0uld use .... To avoid pregnancy and many m0re shamelss c0mments in l0ud v0ice , when my frd t0ld the wh0le scene to husband he didnt agree and refused to blv that his father can do so, even her m0ther in law was also there when m0ther in law t0ld her husband he faught with her n said no 1 is allowed to scold my wife etc but he didnt talk to his father, on the same night she miscarried. Her husband went to his fathers h0me and said my baby has died bcz of you n shifted in khi . But after half n year n0w his father has planned a dramma that im n0t fine live with us you r the eldest s0n d0nt ive in khi , i will arrange a job for you ant all that chikni chupri batain. N0w her husband is forcing her to shift hyd with them 4 no reas0n and warned her that if she want accept his decisiön he will divorce her. She is forced to m0ve 4 the sake of her baby and relation.
Re: bad behaving husband!
What difference does the religious sect make?
Re: bad behaving husband!
^^ ditto!
Re: bad behaving husband!
^ I was wondering the same thing
Re: bad behaving husband!
This would be the difference--- Father in law is taunting on her hijab.
Also, ismaili practices are MUCH different from non ismaili. They attend JK every Friday and might ask the son and the dil to go as well. There are a lot differences that could cause problems if the in-laws are not happy with DIL and son not practicing Islam like a ismaili.
Re: bad behaving husband!
rabia is quiet right, my frnd is thinking all these things and getting worrieD , SHE d0nt want to go there , even his husband is n0t agreed if she is asking 4 a small appartement where they can live separately like before they were living in the same ismaili c0l0ny bt separate.
Her husband wants to serve his parents buT his parents are p0king their n0se in my frnds pers0nal matters and taunt on her and her familY on little things, in such circumstances she is worried how would she adjust with them . This is n0t a game of few days ..n0w her husband is saying they w0nt interfEre in her religious matters and he will manage a separate house after the birth of bAby buT in the same c0l0ny .. My frnd is also w0rrieD aB0ut her babys future in ismaili atm0sphere . His family is spoiling his relation ..
Re: bad behaving husband!
rabia is quiet right, my frnd is thinking all these things and getting worrieD , SHE d0nt want to go there , even his husband is n0t agreed if she is asking 4 a small appartement where they can live separately like before they were living in the same ismaili c0l0ny bt separate, life style is t0taly change, ismailies d0nt have any imaan or pardaa , they d0nt blv on 5 pillars of islam, their kalima is changeD, they d0nt say salam instead of it they say "Ya ali madad " in reply "maula ali madad" and vulgarity is their pride . Her husband wants to serve his parents buT his parents are p0king their n0se in my frnds pers0nal matters and taunt on her and her familY on little things, in such circumstances she is worried how would she adjust with them . This is n0t a game of few days ..n0w her husband is saying they w0nt interfEre in her religious matters and he will manage a separate house after the birth of bAby buT in the same c0l0ny .. *My frnd is also w0rrieD aB0ut her babys future in ismaili atm0sphere *. His family is spoiling his relation ..
Why did she marry into an Ismaili family then, if they are such horrible people and she is scared of the influence on her children?
Re: bad behaving husband!
Ishq ka bhoot - what else? :halo:
OP, the fact that his family is Ismaili and they have different values than her should not be surprising her now. Didn’t she think about this before marrying the guy? You keep on bringing up how ‘misbehaving’ her inlaws are? I assume they can’t be that bad. They did bring up her husband after all, no?
Re: bad behaving husband!
Vulgarity is their pride? 
Re: bad behaving husband!
she has cleared it before that they will live separate after getting married , but n0w her husband has changeD his statement , everything was cleared before and was fine , if his parents are n0t such horrible they should n0t interfEre in their pers0nal matters .. Her husbAnd has divorceD her 1 time oN this issue , when his family is n0t respecting my frnd why they are f0rcing for shifting , his father is n0t ill , he even d0es n0t reply if she says salam . He is n0t giving her the value she should have. What should she do n0w ?
Re: bad behaving husband!
She should realize that shaadi is not bachon ka khel. She consciously made the decision to marry into a family whose background is worlds apart from her own. It doesn't matter what was "cleared" before and fine, life is all about variables and dealing with changes. I'm sorry, but your friend is fooling herself. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. If she's not strong enough to deal with her choices and find a way to coexist in her in laws world, then she should end it now.
Re: bad behaving husband!
she has cleared it before that they will live separate after getting married , but n0w her husband has changeD his statement , everything was cleared before and was fine , if his parents are n0t such horrible they should n0t interfEre in their pers0nal matters .. Her husbAnd has divorceD her 1 time oN this issue , when his family is n0t respecting my frnd why they are f0rcing for shifting , his father is n0t ill , he even d0es n0t reply if she says salam . He is n0t giving her the value she should have. What should she do n0w ?
Re: bad behaving husband!
And on a side note, I'd just like to add that your comment about "vulgarity being their pride" is extremely offensive to me. Not all Ismailis are vulgar people. Yes, the tenants of their faith and the way they practice Islam is vastly different from the norm, but still, they are good, decent, hardworking people too.
Your friend's FIL may not be a nice fellow, but don't attribute his behavior to being Ismaili.
Re: bad behaving husband!
Troll.
Re: bad behaving husband!
okay i d0nt wana hurt anYone here, i passed the c0mment because of their bepardagi, behayai is n0t allowed in islam..
They are vulgar if they are n0t wearing hijab .. They are m0st fashionable even they go to jamatkhana for modeling i w0nt say everyone is doing the same buT the majority is d0ing this..
Well, if you people cant help her stop replying Allah is en0ugh to help . I just askeD for help if any 0ne could help after reading the whole sitUati0n , i kn0w she had made a mistake buT n0w what to do . How cAn she fEel betTer she d0nt wana spoil her lifE .