okay i d0nt wana hurt anYone here, i passed the c0mment because of their bepardagi, behayai is n0t allowed in islam..
They are vulgar if they are n0t wearing hijab .. They are m0st fashionable even they go to jamatkhana for modeling i w0nt say everyone is doing the same buT the majority is d0ing this..
Well, if you people cant help her stop replying Allah is en0ugh to help . I just askeD for help if any 0ne could help after reading the whole sitUati0n , i kn0w she had made a mistake buT n0w what to do . How cAn she fEel betTer she d0nt wana spoil her lifE .
What kind of help do you think you can get from here?
Everyone is giving you answers based on your posts (btw what in earth is it with the o and 0??).
There are so many no-no's in your posts. Even if I wanted to comment, I wouldn't know where to start.
okay i d0nt wana hurt anYone here, i passed the c0mment because of their bepardagi, behayai is n0t allowed in islam..
They are vulgar if they are n0t wearing hijab .. They are m0st fashionable even they go to jamatkhana for modeling i w0nt say everyone is doing the same buT the majority is d0ing this..
Well, if you people cant help her stop replying Allah is en0ugh to help . I just askeD for help if any 0ne could help after reading the whole sitUati0n , i kn0w she had made a mistake buT n0w what to do . How cAn she fEel betTer she d0nt wana spoil her lifE .
By these standards, the same can be said about Sunnis who do not do hijab, haina?
And you've gotten adequate responses to help your friend...she has two options 1) come to terms with her situation and make her peace with living with her inlaws or 2) end her marriage if she cannot compromise on her living situation and her inlaws behavior.
By these standards, the same can be said about Sunnis who do not do hijab, haina?
And you've gotten adequate responses to help your friend...she has two options 1) come to terms with her situation and make her peace with living with her inlaws or 2) end her marriage if she cannot compromise on her living situation and her inlaws behavior.
It's quite simple.
hmm thanks alot for your kind resp0nse ..
I have adviced her the same .. She has 2 options .. I adviceD her to do whatever she wants and let her in laws do whatever their religi0n says. And she should "saBer " .. Jo hota hy aCHhy k liay hota hy , so jb sub ho gaya hy tU accept kr leni chahye reality or apne kam se kam rkhe jo pRoblem ho husbAnd ko bta dy wo shifting kr rhe hain tU ab wife k manay k bAad wo b khayal rakhen gy ous ka chahe past main jo howa wo bhula dEna chahye .
let me clear 1 thing , her husband is caring enough, he does all house chores for her because she is pregnant , all the problem is his family , they are misguiding him by forcing him to divorce my frnd he has accepted that he was unable to think because his parents are forcing him to live with them ..
How do u caps lock a zero in place of an O. Just by that being pointed out and the shoddy penmanship of the "misbehavior" I say troll. Everyone who agrees say aye! The further details will come as and when we ask, because they have yet all to be produced.
ok...so watever the problem maybe...u jst cannot point fingers on somebody's faith and belief. Being an ISMAILI myself, someone telling tht we dont have IMAAN, is totally ridiculous!!!! and UNACCEPTABLE.
So my advice, first teach urself and ur friend to RESPECT other beliefs - be it SHIA, SUNNIS or ISMAILIS, or any other sects.
my cousin is married to a sunni guy and my family is totally cool abt it...infact they both practise their respective beliefs. So yeah it depends on different ppl how they handle it.
Besides, the best solution is to build a rapport with the family, sit and sort out things. Talk it out and sort the differences. Rather then pointing fingers at their belief and calling them names.
Ok not to step on any toes here but all the Ismaili friends that I had or knew of, any kind of revealing clothing (short dresses, necklines, shorts, skirts etc.) was not frowned upon and practically encouraged? (FYI I'm talking about Dubai). So maybe saying "vulgarity is their pride" is not the right way to put it, but from what I know revealing clothes and music/dance/mixed events are all acceptable and not discouraged (as in u don't have to lie about it to ur parents if ur going somewhere). One of them also told me once that the more conservative ppl do not send their kids to jamaat khana because of negative influence (as in, too progressive for them). And again fasting, prayer, hajj and the 5 pillars basically are not required of them, they can do it if they please. Anyway, if this is how it is or is acceptable in the community then in shouldn't be offensive if someone talks about it or points it out (ofcourse not said In a rude way). Btw what I have written is as I've seen it or heard about it from Ismailis themselves so please don't make this a slashfest. I understand that each individual Ismaili might be different and they might do things differently in the various geographic locations. This is just what I have observed and it might be a little off than what it really is.
I also think the OP mentioned the religion thing to specify why her in laws are against her in the first place. So I don't think it's unrequired information at all.
Derogatory or disparaging remarks about another sect, or their level of imaan, be they Sunni, Shia, Ismaili or whatever is against forum rules. The way OP worded her friends dilemma could have been done without brushing off a whole sect with the same brush.
If the OP's friend's FIL is being unjust towards her it's not because of he is Ismaili, nor is it indicative of every Ismaili FIL.
And as far as the how liberal Ismailis are in their dress or how they do or don't practice the 5 pillars of Islam, well that discussion is better suited for R&S.
if divorcing your spouse is a way out of irreconcilable differences in a marriage then why divorcing the family not an option?
if the husband loves her then he should listen to his wife's grievances and move away for the sake of saving their marriage. if he doesn't, it means he neither loves his wife nor desires to save the marriage...in that scenario, talaaq is the ONLY viable option available to them.
good luck and may Allah make it easier for the couple to stay in the matrimony. aameen
please stop talking about ismailies , i'm sorry if i hurted anyone , i didnt meant to hurt anyone here , i was talking about my frnds in laws not about the whole sect , i know this not our matter Allah knows the best btw right or wrong , kindly only talk about the solution if you have otherwise dont discuss who is right and who is wrong .. I dont blv on sect , im only a Muslim and i blv upon 5 pillars of islam and try to act upon islamic teachings as no 1 is perfect so please stop it right here .i wont pass any comment on other sects. Thats it . Otherwise dElete this thread .
have told before that i'm using mobile . 0 is o .. Please dont find mistakes in my post instead of helping .. I dont know why you re not talking about the topic and noticing 0 or o in my post . I have cleared before that i m using mobile keypad thats why i have written 0 instead of typing o ..
The title of the post says bad behaving husband and your OP suggests the issue is with FIL but you actually want people to tell that the husband should get a separate place away from his parents. right?
husband is behaving bAd becAuse of his fathers decision, he should n0t interfEre in their matTErs, my friend wants to live separate in the same colony not with them because of some issues i have mentioned above, she wants to be in touch with them but she wants a separate plaCe .
good news:
wo log alag hi rahen gy ab . Problem is solved
my friend texted the same as one of the member said here . And her husband is now agreed and said sorry . Kindly pray for their bright futUre and increase in love.
Thank you everyone. You people are really helping many people ..
OP I just wanted to know if the letter “O” on your keyboard wasn’t working correctly since you keep using the number “0” in its place here and there.
But then you are using the letter “O” as well … so I guess I’m just really confused. If the letter “O” is working fine why do you feel the need to use the number “0” in its place? Or is there a hidden message in it that I don’t understand? Please answer. Thanks
Please answer. Thanks