So what if her cousin wears same clothes? Why cant she be a bit more open minded and accept it? Why can't she just enjoy the whole ordeal and laugh about it later with her cousin that "*Oh remember we wore same clothes on our weddings ROFLMAO ROFLMA lmao ahah i know right" *You're wearing clothes on a wedding day dammit, get over it! Almost all the women there are gonna dress up so much that its going to be indistinguishable to tell them apart from the horde of heavy makeup with cheap french perfume that they got off of macy's 59% off.
You're right. Why can't Jalebi...and in general, all women, just let it go? It is a minor issue when you look at the big picture.
Except it's not. Speaking as a woman...it's hard to let stuff like this go. We care about these details, especially when it comes time for a wedding - especially when it's our wedding. We want to be unique and beautiful. The wedding day is talked up so much, pretty much since the day we're born, that even the most straight-forward and simple girl has some definite ideas about how she wants her big day to go. Illogical and irrational and even selfish though it is, we take it to heart when there's a slight chance that someone appears to be stealing our thunder. Again, you are right...in the big picture, we really should just chill. But we're not built that way. Call it irrational, call it selfish, call it whatever you want. It's the way we are. And so long as it doesn't get out of hand, so long as one isn't obsessing over it to the point that all other aspects of one's life is ignored and neglected, there's nothing wrong with a bit of obsessing over the details.
Even if my cousin wore the same shervani as i did i wouldn't fuss about it i'd probably go around taking pictures with him! I mean i'd ask him to buy for me too if its a buy 1 get one free deal :)!
Because that's the way men are.
I don't have any scientific, historical, psychological, sociological, whatever data to explain it better to you. We women (most of us) care about this stuff. Most men don't. That's all.