Back Home Gifts

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yeah i agree with sarah on the 34th st n broadway wholesale shops...
theres actually this 3 story chinese wholesale shops that sells a mess of costume purses for a fair amount and they are very cute. You know the purses with sequins, pearls...shiny stuff etc..rather small party purses. I have seen them in styloshoes at pretty high prices. Anyways i am sending my mother in law a nice cardigan sweater and comfy shoes, nice boots and cologne set for father in law...makeup kits and hand bags for sister in laws..toys n clothes for the kids...and still confused what to get for hubby's brother in law. urgh i dunno why we even have to send him anything? Hamay kia behja? anyways i guess that's selfish?? whatever. Hope they appreciate my hardwork in getting the gifts, as my due date is next week!!

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A box of holiday cookies or chocolates. You can't go wrong with that.

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My mother-in-law tries to go to Pakistan once a year to visit family. I know families vary in their income and situation. Some members of her family are in a tough situation and she really helps them. But my mil took things like tylenol, baby tylenol, other medicine. She went to the NYC wholesale district and loaded up on perfume, cologne, wallets, purses, hair accesories, shirts, sweaters, winter hats and gloves. She took toys and dolls for the kids, clothes for them. For women there was also cosmetics and moisturizers, lotions, designer shoes and jewelry, watches.

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I take very specific gifts for pplk I am close to, and nothing for everyone else, because that is just a waste, they will not appreciate it, some because they are just royal pains and some because well, I dont know them well nuff so what I get may not be in line with what they like. so local cakes and stuff it is when I go to see them.

the money I save by not buying crap for them, can go to a charity, or go to me..:D

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Why don't you just give them cash money..........

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...cuz they are not bhik-mangay and handing cash out to ppl makes one look like a damn posuer and snob treating his family as sarak-chap bhookay nangay bhik-mangay beggars

These are not people who need anything, those that need help get it even when I am not there, we have set up a fund just for that.

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most of our close relatives always appreciate what we give them. xcept for one time, my mom took a bottle of tylenol for my mamoon’s son in law. when he got them he was like “why not the big bottle” but his whle family are kameenay anyway (when my cousin married, they complained that their clothes were ugly or not fancy enough n whatnot) so whatever. but anyway, they not looking for gifts from us, they just happy to c us :blush:

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so many replies…bless you all thankyou ever so much!! :slight_smile: ( and yes i did read thru every reply..quite slowly actually)

i luved some of the ideas and quickly wrote them down as my shortlist of what to buy.

kazi - haha…i swear shrek as frizbees…gotta give u props for thinkin of creative ways to puttin things to use:hoonh:

pinkd’out - real diamonds??? :confused:

ruiner/ amana - that is soooo true! some ppl can be sooo critical..gosh, a gift is a gift…so i have decided not to purchase any brand name stuff…cuz they are all made in like china, india, watever…though i got sum brand name perfumes for my cousins

bookworm - about these Teflon gloves that you mentioned…where can i get em? i know a lottta ppl who drive motorbikes…dat mite make a good gift actually

sara / afro-sheen - those thrift shops can be very very helpful…esp for lil kids…older i mite go for a lil better quality…btw,perhaps a cologne for ur brother-in-law afro…?

saiman/fraudia - my mom actually buying medicines for her older sisters…she also bought centrum…i think its a great gift idea for elders…esp considerin how expensive medicine can get bakhome

rock_express - well i am not sure about actual money…but i was thinkin of buying gift cards from stores my cousins shop and give em to my cousins…atleast they can pick wat they want

pyaricgudia - i am loading on the chocolates…esp from costco…they can get sooo cheap in bulk

mamof3 - you are sooo rite bout the everyday things…now that i think bout it i realized i cld stock on spray deodorants, soaps, toothpaste..n make those nice gift baskets…:slight_smile:

guys, i was also thinking of buying a couple of keychains as “souvenirs” ..oh and key holders …i think it wld look gud in houses…wat do u think?

ik sawaal maiN karuuN, ik sawaal tum karo: har sawaal kaa jawaab hii sawaal ho!!!
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as long as they are not asking for viagara )

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kiya ho gaya hai fraud tumhain:eek:

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i know make-up products and fragrances go down well with women and the younger male relatives.

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Originally Posted by Ruiner
Princess...I don't really care about their habits. I'm tired of desis acting like they are too good for my gifts. I used to put a lot of thought and money into these gifts and then they are thrown back at me like oh "this is made in china, it is not good" or whatever. Go to hell desi relatives - you are only getting a cake out of me.

done the same thing so many times .agree with u 110%.

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Good quality Toys.. you can get a lot of very crappy chinese teen number maal that passes for toys in Pakistan but numero uno quality Chinese toys that make it to the USA just can't be found there.

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someone i know was actually asked to bring it :cb:

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UZ see what PB just said…

I just know desis too well :slight_smile:

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"behosh" in ko pata kaise chal jata hai aise cheezon ka?

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lesson learned- Never to buy any presents for relatives back home.
They are all ungrateful, greedy people trying to rip you off.

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although to be fair, sometimes ppl just buy crap to complete a formality, and are shocked when the recipient does not do a dance of joy as a deodorant and a pack of gum is given to me.

I mean I have recieved gifts from people that only had one use, to smash on the head of the person who got that junk, but I had to act all excited as if no one has ever given me a crystal vase or crystal clock before.

to avoid anguish on both sides, I think no gifts is the best policy except for those u are very close to, and then spend soem real money and get them something they really like

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I never buy gifts. I take them out to eat with me in restaurants. I make sure it is not the ordinary cuisine. The experience is etched in memories forever. Who remembers a tie or shirt or perfume? But I am sure you all remember a big dinner outing!

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Just go down to the £1 shops, i'm sure u'll find lots of little gift ideas...and cheap too.