Re: baby weight!!people hate!!!
I actually did not find that to be true. I lost weight very quickly after delivery, probably due to fluid loss. Then I was incredibly hungry and had very intense cravings while breastfeeding. I put a few of those pounds back on while nursing, some of which have come off again now that I’ve stopped. Anyway, as long as a person is trying, they should not be made to feel disgusting.
Also, there IS a separate issue of the fact that in Pakistani culture it is perfectly acceptable to remark loudly and proudly whatever you notice about a person’s appearance (both men and women do this, I have found). I have been a very confident young woman most of my life, but was constantly in tears whenever we visited Pakistan in my late teens and twenties. The remarks are often about things one cannot control or correct, but they must be stated, and not privately to show concern, rather out in the open in front of a large group, to show just how observant one is.