Re: Baby talk right after marriage
Sumo,
I have a friend who is going through the same ordeal with her MIL. Fortunately for her, the MIL lives far away and her husband is very supportive of her because he knows how irritating it can be. My friend has dealt with this issue by talking to her husband and expressing her concerns and feelings. And also by keeping MIL at a distance. You've only been married 8 months and it's ridiculous of them to expect you to get pregnant the first year that you are married. It's also RUDE because it makes a woman feel like a baby producing machine and less of a human being who has her own wishes and opinions as well. It's soooooooo EASY for them to bug you with questions about when you're gonna have a baby. But YOU'RE the one whose going to have carry the baby in you for 9 months and raise it......so it's HUGE DEAL for you especially and they should keep that in mind.
But tact is not always considered by MIL's. So, I suggest you talk to your hubby and tell your plans of when you'd like to have children. And work it out with him.....cuz you 2 are the ones who'll raise the kid so your/his opinions and goals matter more than the MIL's. Once you talk to your husband about this and express to him how pressured you feel when his mom keeps bugging you.........he might even handle his mom by telling her that the baby making plans are put on hold until (whenever) and we'll let you know when there's any good news and asking **all the time **is not gonna make anyone have a baby any time soon. Hopefully when he steps in, your MIL will get the message.
And keep in mind that things happen according to Allah's time schedule and no amount of MIL bugging is gonna change that. You'll have a baby when Allah wants you to have one whether that's a year from now or 5 years down the road. So talk to your hubby and pray for what is best for you both.