Niksik, this is a mistake that a lot of people fall on. It is true that half of our wedding functions are non-Islamic but that doesn’t justify us doing other non-Islamic stuff…doing one sin doesn’t mean you should do another.
Regardless of whether you have a Baby Shower or not, It is most important to try to understand whether what you are doing is right or wrong…So that even if you do do it, you know what to ask Allah for forgiveness for…And How do we know what is right or wrong? Well that is why we have Muhammad (s); the best of or people try to copy every action of Muhammad (s) and his family, and hold on to every one of his words. So even when they have a *doubt *about something they refrain from it.
But that is the best of us- and it’s a hard level to achieve. It requires a lot of sacrifice.
For the others (and everyone) it* is important that we continously ask for istighfar,* even when we’re in doubt about things we particpitated in, are not sure if they are right, and admire and love those who give up things for the sake of Allah. In a famous hadith, it is said “you will be summonded on DoJ with those who you love.” So maybe we can’t be like them, but we can love them for their righteousness and inshallah maybe we will be one of them..