How many of you had them or have planned them or attended any? Please share some ideas, how tos and dos and don’ts.
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I didn't agar aap bula lain to aik baar to attend kar hi loon.
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I organised a baby shower for my friend which unfortunately didnt go very well. The space was cramped and i had people commenting how hot/small my place was. I was limited because couldnt find a bigger place Never again am i inviting that many people at my place again! Plus the food issue : it was a potluck but people brought something different from what they had initially said. Then there was the issue of how halal baby shower is and i had to call it a get together to be able to have everyone over.
For myself, my good friends organised a wonderful baby shower at teh clubhouse of one of the friend's apartment complex. Everyone made me feel pampered. There were little favors for everyone and the decorations were just excellent. Baby themed plates, napkins, table decorations, balloons etc were a very nice touch. There were also some games that were fun for everyone. I made sure to take a little gift for the hostesses.
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Gr8Heera ji, sure :D
I recently attended one that another friend had arranged for a common friend at her home. It was awesome. It was a potluck but her husband made the yummiest cake ever! She had assigned all the food and had told us the numbers, quantity, etc. She had a beautiful set up with games, paper, pens, and this huge basket of nice smelling body lotions/soaps/baths/candles that she got from some discount place. So winners of games could pick a prize and at the end, all were welcome to take home the remaining gifts. Then we opened the presents. She really put in a lot of effort and our friend, the pregnany lady, was so happy!
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Niksik, yeah i didnt organize the one i held, very well. I could have done a better job but there were way too many battles to overcome. I think i needed to be more assertive and vocal in the planning stage. I guess you live and learn, i certainly have :D
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is it haram? i dun see any reason or logic why it shud be considering alot of stuff in Quran is logical and practical both. Niki what do u think (i think ure pretty sensible and religious at the same time, tell us!!)
its not v common in pak to have baby showers, they call them godh bharai but in my relatives or inlaws i havent heard of it. but i wud surely LOVE a baby shower of my own... if not i will force my mom or cousin to organize one :D hehehe my cousin is pregnant so definitely Inshallah I plan to have a baby shower for her soon!
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Ira, at least you tried. Good job anyway.
Mall, I don't really know the halalness of it? I mean why would it be not? I can't think of any reason for that. It's usually ladies anyway, just food, fun and games, not based on any saints or festival, just a welcome for the baby.
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I have thrown 3 baby showers for my friends, all potlucks but I always ask what people want to make or their speciality. I keep the rice dish and dessert for myself so if someone to whom either of these were assigned, doesn't turn up these main items won't be missed. I put up baby shower decorations, get a cake and have favors (stuff from Party cCty).
We also do goodh bharai in that baby shower to give it a desi touch. I myself add a little something for the mom to be along with the gift for the baby eg a small "travel bag" filled with lotion, deoderant, comb, toothbrush, empty address book, pen and a $5-10 phone card (for calls to Pakistan) etc.
Men come too but they sit separetly and join in for dinner only as most people are uncomfortable with a joint shower. we make it a point to wear kaam wala joras and all.
Gr8Heera ji, sure :D
I recently attended one that another friend had arranged for a common friend at her home. It was awesome. It was a potluck but her husband made the yummiest cake ever! She had assigned all the food and had told us the numbers, quantity, etc. She had a beautiful set up with games, paper, pens, and this huge basket of nice smelling body lotions/soaps/baths/candles that she got from some discount place. So winners of games could pick a prize and at the end, all were welcome to take home the remaining gifts. Then we opened the presents. She really put in a lot of effort and our friend, the pregnany lady, was so happy!
Awww masha Allah. Thanks for telling me.
I never participated in any goad bharai. I heard in the films only.
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crap ...thank God neither me, my wife nor families are into such things. What a waste of money and time !
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LOL
You ruined my khushi.
LOL
You ruined my khushi.
sorry but life comes at you fast :)
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I dun agree with u. i dun think they are waste of time or money... they are actually sweet. its a gud memory.... plus the soon to b mom feels nice abt it. esp if its a first baby, one shud definitely throw a party.
sorry but life comes at you fast :)
Haan fazool kharchi to hai. I won't like to do that fazool kharchi. Party makes me happy.
I dun agree with u. i dun think they are waste of time or money... they are actually sweet. its a gud memory.... plus the soon to b mom feels nice abt it. esp if its a first baby, one shud definitely throw a party.
Mall truth no maan leni chahyay aap pasand karo ya na karo.
I agree with Decent bhai that it's totally fazool kharchi and time waste.
On the other hand maza ata hai party main.
First mom kay liaay yaqeenun exciting hota hoga.
crap ...thank God neither me, my wife nor families are into such things. What a waste of money and time !
Oh wow what a strong opinion? How is it a waste of money? You mean the thoughtful and generous gifts people get for your babe are wasteful or the chance to sit and laugh for a couple of hours?
Haan fazool kharchi to hai. I won't like to do that fazool kharchi. Party makes me happy.
Mall truth no maan leni chahyay aap pasand karo ya na karo.
I agree with Decent bhai that it's totally fazool kharchi and time waste.
On the other hand maza ata hai party main.
First mom kay liaay yaqeenun exciting hota hoga.
hey everyone is entitled to their opinion. i respected his but i just said i didnt agree... i didnt say it is the TRUTH like u did. we cannot decide whats true and wots not. everyone thinks differently. i like baby showers and i think its a gr8 thing for the mom to be... it makes her feel extra special. plus i dun think its wastage of money. how much money are u gonna spend anyway for the party? one throws parties for relatives, invites ppl for dinner, dusnt that cost? so its all about priority. if someone is dear to me i will throw a party. peace!!
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Oh wow what a strong opinion? How is it a waste of money? You mean the thoughtful and generous gifts people get for your babe are wasteful or the chance to sit and laugh for a couple of hours?/quote]
I SWEAR!!!!!! sumone tell them!
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Oh wow what a strong opinion? How is it a waste of money? You mean the thoughtful and generous gifts people get for your babe are wasteful or the chance to sit and laugh for a couple of hours?
I am not talking about gifts. I strongly believe on give/take of "tauhfey" but amount of time and money that we spend on "baby shower" or "goad bhariee" (chauhtee, dasween etc etc u name it) is just ridicules. If we go by the logic of "chance to sit and laugh together", then nothing comes under "fazool kharchee" category after all thats what we do in mangni, mehndi, mayoon, lavish weddings, outstanding birthday parties and other fazool qism kee rasmeen.
People who can afford these things find it fun but people who cant afford these things HAVE To follow these "sweet rasmeen" due to peer pressure. Guest who come to such parties dont even think what host had to go through to throw this party just for the sake of it. I fail to understand how its different than for example JAHAIZ kee lanat?
btw, this is my opinion and any one and everyone can differ :)
I am not talking about gifts. I strongly believe on give/take of "tauhfey" but amount of time and money that we spend on "baby shower" or "goad bhariee" (chauhtee, dasween etc etc u name it) is just ridicules. If we go by the logic of "chance to sit and laugh together", then nothing comes under "fazool kharchee" category after all thats what we do in mangni, mehndi, mayoon, lavish weddings, outstanding birthday parties and other fazool qism kee rasmeen.
People who can afford these things find it fun but people who cant afford these things HAVE To follow these "sweet rasmeen" due to peer pressure. Guest who come to such parties dont even think what host had to go through to throw this party just for the sake of it. I fail to understand how its different than for example JAHAIZ kee lanat?
btw, this is my opinion and any one and everyone can differ :)
I totally agree with you.
At young age I was so found of these things but now I think why ppl waste those much money and that much show off.
As I found from those show off my family did and other relatives to get that much money went to wrong way to get lots of money like us so quickly and I feel sad for that.
Logon kay is dikhawon aur/ya fazool ki partion say logon ko jinkay paas naheen hai itna paisa targheeb milti hai ghalat rasta hasil kar kay sub kuch karnay ka jo bohat ghalat hai.
Haan tohfay dena aur lena aur doston ki dawat karna to quran o hadees say sabit hai aur achcha bhi lugta hai laikin fazool ki jo rusmain hum nain apna leen hain wo bohat ghalat hain.
Hamaray ghar main bh aay din dawat, partiaan, milaad waghaira hota rehta tha. I liked everything at that time but now I don't like fazool rasmain aur paisa bahana.
Koi bhi apni khushi kay liaay kuch bhi kar sakta hai so no offence for those.