Went to this dawat before Ramadan. Not only that the host couple didnt sit with us at the dining table … they werent even in the dining room .. until we insisted that we are not here for food but for company .. the lady of the house, sat with us , NOT eating , while we ate ! The man was still missing !
Then , first lukma i take and there is this huge baal (hair) in lukma … Just because I didnt want to waste food in my plate and also because i didnt want to be rude .. I put it aside silently and continued eating the food .. but didnt take any more .Later I felt disgusted and wanted to puke
What would you do , if you were in the same situation. Would you mention it loud that there is a baal in the khana ? or not mention it but ask for a new plate and pour some more without creating a scene? or not eat at all and find excuses to not eat like “oh i am dieting” … What would you do?
MN, nai dude , I have short hair , that as a huge , long, kala , thick baal … my poor baal arent as jandar
Actually I believe accidents can happen, I am sure she didnt put the baal intentionally in the food … but she did see me take out the baal .. she acted like nothing happened ! and didnt offer me a new plate
the whole scenario is just too weird!
i hate it when your invited to some ones home and they don't eat with you let alone keep you company while you eat!
and to top it off hair in the food! OMG!
If any of my guests would find i hair in my dish, i would be so ashamed. The horror, the horror…
When i am at somebodies place and i find a hair in the dish, i keep quiet and put it aside. I dont say anything, because i dont want the host to feel ashamed (i think one should mention it though). Par sari bhook marr jati hai :no:
I dont understand why some people dont cover their hair while cooking.
Actually i'd be more weirded out by the person not joining us for food....imean if me and my husband were gonna eat alone, we could've stayed home...... not so much that single strand of hair
though a few yeras back I went to a dawat where there was a huge ball of hair in the food. Erm. No.
ball of hair ..ewwwwwwwwwww .. I hope you never went back there again :no:
I was initially very offended with the fact that the host couple were acting strange … the wife had eaten before we got at their place .. the hubby wanted to eat after we had left .. it totally felt like they just wanted to give us in the face !
Hubby keeps saying , we must invite them over and tell them what a true dawat it all about … but I am having second thoughts
After the baal incident , I didnt know what offended me more , the baal or her acting so nalaik !
I don't know how you kept a straight face...I probably would have puked.If there's one thing I can't stand ,it's baal in food.I always tie a scarf around my hair when cooking,just in case.
There's a lady in my moholla who is famous for serving baal waale khaana..grey hair at that....and now everyone avoids her like a plague,which is a shame 'cos she's a nice lady....
I know charmed … I think if I had found the baal and had no other issues wth their hosting , I might have forgiven them , coz we can give other benefit of the doubt that baal accidently fell into the food .. ho jata hai bi kabi kabi …
But her bad hosting skills , have left a scar on my memory :no: this is why its extremely important to be a good host … coz although she had cooked 5 dishes for us , definitely worked hard .. but bad hosting led all her hard work to waste …
I can understand how you had been feeling that time..I hate baal in salan or in any food.....its just ewwwwwwwww.....in our house, my mom never allow me to enter kitchen with open hair although what ever she cooks, she always cover it but then still she says dont enter kitchen with open hair..
ok it happened with me once..we were invited for dinner and then when i was eating biryani, i saw a baal in it and then the host for sitting next to me...she saw it and said side pe rakh do...WTH, cant she get me another plate ...I didnt know what to do that time..so i just stopped eating and she didnt even offer another plate..
my mil is notorious for it unfortunately. she sheds a lot of hair... doesnt tie her hair when cooking... you do the math
fil will pull hair out of ood and go " aaj vitamins bhi hain khanay mein kia?" ... i think he is too lenient with the whole matter... if my dad ever gets hair in his food at a dawat (my mom wears a scarf whilst cooking so hair in our food has never happened), he says its the woman's puhar punn showing through. its a pretty common saying in our culture.
as for my mil... first time i got it, i just put it to the side and uncle laffed it off saying, vitamins hain beta. she saw my disgust and started to tie her hair before cooking.. but taht didnt help it
it started happening often... i had enough. one dinner time, after i had pulled out a long grey one, i put my plate aside and gave her a talk very calmly in teh presence of husband and fil
that tying her hair isnt enough, your kameez is full of shed hair and so is the sweater your wearing... when you shake and saute food in the pot, the hair lying on ure kameez land in teh pot. she kept denying it that i wear a scarf when cooking now and tie my hair... but when i pointed to the blanket of hair covering her sweater and kameez, she realized she was wrong.
there are still times we get hair in our food cuz i think its just in her nature now.... but most of the times i will leave the lint brush out before she starts cooking just to hint at her to give her kameez a roll over with the lint sticky tape roller thingy to catch all the shed hair.
its not fun. i fear the day we have a dawat and there is hair in the food... it all comes down to unki izzat meri izzat sorta thing. ive tried but like my dad says.. a person taht is puhar, remains puhar. its in ones nature and can not be changed.
.. until we insisted that we are not here for food but for company 
.. the lady of the house, sat with us , NOT eating , while we ate ! The man was still missing !
.. I am never going back to their house again 
You gotta be able to play it off though.