Baahir ki larkiyan

[madz124]

Re: Baahir ki larkiyan

@SaeedinPakistan

Your Pakistani guy couldn’t be more wrong. The odds of a Pakistani guy, who’s never been in a marriage before, having had a physical relationship with a girl are pretty low. Heck the odds of him having had any sort of romantic relationship are pretty low. No girl is going to get into a relationship with a dirt poor student, who’s dependent on his parents for everything. And when he does graduate and gets a job, the parents usually find a girl for him fast.

The thing is, majority of Pakistani guys don’t have the resources to study or work abroad independently. So I think he was referring to the few who do manage to find a way out…such guys have to be clever/smart/go-getters and financially well…and (I think what he meant was) if the guy is like that and of a certain age, then it shouldn’t come as a surprise that he would have been considered popular or desirable back home too…thus, having a colourful past is to be expected.
This particular guy has traveled to many countries for work and now trying to settle down in Canada. I felt like he was trying to justify his past relationships (the ones he had during his work terms in Karachi) by giving me the impression that college/uni culture in Pakistan (esp. in big cities) has “progressed” so much these days. People date and it’s no big deal. It’s nothing serious; it’s more like having a good time. And he assured me that it never went as far as the bedroom…that it was just casual dating and hanging out. And to further justify this “common” behaviour, he said his younger brother (in Pakistan) has two girlfriends right now (and then he laughed).

I might have been ok with all this ^ as long as he can be loyal in the future. But when he told me that he doesn’t think there is anything wrong with low-cut dresses, mini skirts, and sleeveless tops…that after hearing the details about me (like prior to meeting for coffee), he had pictured a bold, clever girl…and that he wouldn’t mind his kids growing up and dressing in western style clothes if they liked … I was like okay this is definitely not the guy for me!

The thing that surprised me is that his family (in Pak) is really simple and educated … I would say, they belong to middle class. So I don’t know how he can be so different and be such a player. He is average looking…but very confident. He goes, Pakistan main tu aaj kal English itni aam ho gayi hai, wahan ki larkiyan tumse bhi achi English bolti hain with accent. Ok buddy!