Re: Baahir ki larkiyan
I don’t like America as a permanent residence. I think Canada is much better in many aspects for raising a family. I don’t know very many guys who would be willing to move to Canada, esp if their family is in the States.
They have a very busy schedule. They are social but like I said, there are no potential marriageable guys in our social circle. Parents are trying now to expand their horizons (i.e. contacting matchmakers, asking around more actively, and trying in Pak through marriage bureau). Let’s see.
You don’t have to be so harsh. I did mention above that education is not the only important factor and that it depends what the guy has done with his degree. In the case of guys we rejected:
-one was a college dropout. His family had financial troubles so him being the eldest son, had to quit his studies and work as a manager at a store on min wage (initially). Their “haalaat” are better now so we asked the family if he would be willing to go back to college and complete his studies so his future prospects are better, but they weren’t interested
-one guy was like 6 years older than me and still doing his undergrad. What happened? Well, he fell in love with some girl in uk (when he was in HIGH SCHOOL, geez!) and moved there for 3 years to try and make it work but got rejected by her parents and came back here all heartbroken and depressed for a few more years. So anyhow, now he is trying to get his act together but he is not the smartest cookie around so with study on a part time basis, God knows how much longer it will be before he starts a real job
-one guy was introduced to us as an engineer but upon meeting the family, it turned out he did his undergrad but did not write his professional Eng. exam. He works in the engineering dept but more like an assistant/technical writer type job. My dad asked him if he was planning to write the exam in the future. He said ‘no, where I work, I have a really good vibe with my coworkers and the office is literally 5 min from my home, so I am comfortable in this position/company. Money is not that important to me.’
These are just a few examples that came to mind. So, it’s not just that they don’t have masters level or higher education, it’s the whole lazy attitude and no desire to improve their current standard of living. I am not looking for a rich guy or the smartest guy. But I also don’t want to marry a bum. I am career-oriented and I would want someone like-minded. Is that fair?