Re: Baahir ki larkiyan
Exactly, same here. The rishte waali aunty who suggested this proposal later informed us that his mom had also approached a few other matchmakers and was actively looking for, how do you say, “khoob se khoob-tar” (in her case, the richer the better). He got married 3 months after his family backed out. It was a big surprise for my family too.
haha, I know what you are saying. Mera ishaara kisi aur taraf tha. Let’s suppose the family is religious and their “pakistaniat” is apparent…for example, their kids wear desi clothes at social events, attend jummah prayer, etc. BUT if you were to see the same kids in college/uni you wouldn’t be able to call them Muslim, let alone Pakistani. So, for rishta purposes, if you went around asking in the neighbourhood what kind of family it is, everyone would sing their praises (assuming people in the community are nice and friendly) because that’s what they know from their limited interaction with the kids. By comparison, in Pakistan, agar bachay “kharaab” ho jaate hain, you have a better chance of finding this out from the college/uni or workplace.
At least that’s what my parents believe. Baaqi jin logon ko hera-pheri karni hoti hai, woh kahin bhi hon kisi na kisi tareeqay se dhoka dene main kamyaab ho jaate hain.
Hopefully, Allah bure logon se bachaaye. iA