Re: aunty & irem ... aik guftugoo
the aunty ji was telling you in a not so direct way that you should get married, thats what one can easily gather from the first sentence..and that is what she ended this conversation with. Unlike Faisal, i dont think that aunty was curious about any 'affairs' that you had in college, but wanted to see if you liked someone. I would be more pissed at her nagging u about shaadi than some questions which i believe you simply took the wrong way
I think the aunty is fairly progressive and was just wondering if you liked someone in college. and btw liking someone has nothing to do with bad parvarish, whether at school or work...
Now the aunty ji is rude and annoying and is asking too many personal questions, that I dont disagree with, but I am more amused at Irem's thinking and words than the aunty ji's. Lets examine them shall we
here is irem responding to aunty ji about whether there were guys in her college
"ji .... uhhh .... ji aunty thay toh .... par un ko is nazarye se nai daikha tha kyun ke us wakt meri tawajjo parhai pe ziada thee aur mein family se bhee doore thee, insaan in chakkaron mein par jaye toh kaheen ka naheen rehta... "
1) I know friggin medical residents who work crazy hours, defintely more than some undergrad in a school and that there "tawajuh" was on their work does not keep them from a social life, whether it is tromantic or not
2) what do you mean by "insaan in chakkaron mein par jaye toh kaheen ka naheen rehta... "
what chakkar? i doubt that aunty ji is talking about girls gone wild here. If one likes someone, whether this person is in the same schoo, same company, or heck outside of work at school..what is the difference. Someone at 21 meeting someone at uni and liking that person and getting romantically involved is nothing different than someone at 26 working and meeting someone at a party and getting involved, or someone at 30 meeting someone at some event and getting involved. It simply is dependent on, the involved person's maturity level, the nature, seriousness and direction of the relationship.
Then they aunty ji says that some people dont really have the guts to go for it (bad choice of words on her part) to which irem responds
irem: ji aunty ye bhee hae. waise mere khayal se guts se zaada aap kee parvarish aur family pe bhee depend karta hae. agar aap kay waaldein ko is baat se koi aiteraaz na ho toh phir aap kar bhee saktay haen lekin hamari tarbeeyat bhee doosri tarhaan hoi vi hae
1) its tarbiyat or parvarish
2) its what parents approve
now..lets not link these together, To assume that someone who will meet someone else during education and like them has had bad parvarish or tarbiyat is lame. Getting parental consent or approval is not the same as good tarbiyat or parvarish. people can have very good parvarish and tarbiyat but could have parents who have no issues if their kid finds someone in college who he/she is interested in.
the kind of adviceiN aunties give u these days 
nai 
nai she’s not 
