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PCG, did you not feel any sort of pull towards him?
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Well what if he is cute but you're just not feeling any carnal urges?
If you two are mentally compatible and he's cute...........the carnal urges will find their way in. For many women, attraction develops over a period of time provided most other things are falling into place. Usually, this is the case with women who are a bit more mature, have met people, dated a little, etc...its not easy to make them drool just because someone is cute.
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The first 2-3 years of marriage are that of intense infatuation, where you just can't think of anything else other than your spouse, you start to feel their smell around you. The next few years you become busy, the "family" as a unit becomes centre of your attention and focus. After about 10 years is that time when you really become soul mates. After that no matter what happens, the other person becomes a part of you that you will never be able to get out of you, even if you wanted.
P.S The fights or differences ca develop during all the phases.
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I don't know what pull means anymore. Does it matter?
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Have you seen Fawad Khan with glasses, though ? Point invalid.
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PCG, did you not feel any sort of pull towards him?
Is this question it?
I am in the same situation and I keep wondering if the reason for lack of that "pull" is my shallowness. But no matter how much I try to talk to the person, I have NO desire to even open up to him. There is really nothing majorly wrong with him. And this person is falling quickly (with the image in his head coz he knows nothing about me).
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Alone.. she is already alone I just want to give her company… 
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This wasnt much of a problem of most pakistani girls (living in pakistan) and many many men too. They just fell for the one who, according to their elders, was his/her partner to be. Love came automatically without much consideration. But they lived happily ever after (mostly) Look at our parents for example. Most will be like that. Most are happy in their lives. Most Problems come only with expectations.
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Is this question it?
I am in the same situation and I keep wondering if the reason for lack of that "pull" is my shallowness. But no matter how much I try to talk to the person, I have NO desire to even open up to him. There is really nothing majorly wrong with him. And this person is falling quickly (with the image in his head coz he knows nothing about me).
I sometimes feel the same. Its not that I am shallow or anything, I like some girls who are in my class or elsewhere and they are average looking but only after I get to know them. Just sitting across a stranger and hoping for a spark doesn't really work that way. And no girl wants to carry on get-to-know process for months .. you gotta decide in few weeks which I think is quite intimidating.
My mom thinks there is not even a need to talk to girl for weeks - she says just talk to her once and get married. I told her no way bye lol. If it doesn't work out I am afraid I will end up marrying some white chick (which is not my first choice) because there are no brown chicks where I live and even in that brown chick my mom want to find someone who is shia ...i was like come on !!!