Who got married to a guy just cuz it was a smart decision (he has a job, he’s a nice person, would make a good dad), and was not remotely attracted to him?
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Anna Nicole Smith
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sighz except I don't have that body.
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Almost every girl in Pakistan.
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:( THAT'S SAD. That's a lot of unsatisfactory intercourse.
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Anna Nicole Smith
sighz except I don't have that body.
Well she was a Barbie and you are a Gudia....
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after a couple of plates of biryani everyone's attractive. dont worry pcg.
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a good 75% of all girls in Pakistan.
You'll see a dearth of answers on this one by women. Or those warm fuzzy feel good ones along the lines of ...
"beauty is in the eye of beholder"
"I grew into him"
"My husband is no Brad Pitt, but he is sexy to me"
We all know by now what all of that sh1t means.
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I think attraction is important. I could not marry someone who I am not attracted to.
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I have a friend who got married to a guy because of the criteria above. Her parents asked her what her thoughts were about him and if she would like to share her life with him.
In the very beginning she was sceptical about the guy, but between the time of nikah and rukhsati (6months) she started to get to know him. And by the time of the marriage she was sparkling like a diamond.. She found a husband who was not only capable to support her financially and become a good dad. He became her best friend and her heart skipped a beat when ever she saw him hihi
So i don't think that the attraction will be there in the very beginning. In some cases its not there cuz one doesnt sees the other gender like someone he or she can be attracted to.. But i think the attraction grows in the first few months of the relation...cuz than u start knowing each other and liking each other...
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There you go.
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Disgruntled, I see...
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^ about my answer?...:o
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I think you need to be ATLEAST somewhat attracted to them, and then that can grow as you get to know them. Ive seen that work well with a lot of peope. As I told my parents during rishta process - you need a spark. Dad didn't get it, lol. So I wasn't willing to settle if that wasn't there. Yes, it is much more important (in my eyes) that they're a good person.. But I didn't exactly go out expecting to find a John Abraham, so my expectations weren't sky-high and unrealistic. mA I think my husband is attractive and I get butterflies in my tummy when he smiles at me, I personally need that.. BUT he's got the brains to back it up :)
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I'm sure your husband didnt go out expecting a Katrina Kaif either. Dont flatter yourself too much.
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I don’t think Katrina Kaif is all that anyway :halo:
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She might not be all that but is she at least “then some”?
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:( THAT'S SAD. That's a lot of unsatisfactory intercourse.
and **you **would know? lol sorry couldn't resist
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hmm....that's a dangerous question to answer.
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if attraction was the reason behind successful marriages then the west wouldnt have a divorce rate of 120% today.
listen to your heart from age 13-25...listen to your brain after that (women) men can listen to their hearts up till age 29...they get four more years.