Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

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Word!.

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if one of my parents wanted to get rtemarried, then i would be all for it...I would attend the nikkah, given that this is something my parent has decided they wanted to do

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Not many parents, especially moms, would be willing to re-marry when their own children have reached the age of marriage, mainly because of the society!

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My mum re-married last year after getting divorced from dad. All my family attended, along with my mums close friends. It was very strange being there when the Nikah was done (I mean most kids don't see their parents get married) On one hand I was glad my mum was happy and moved on- but on the other it was the moment when I realised my parents were definately seperated and it was quite difficult to understand and accept that.

At the end of the day everyone wants someone to look after and be with them, would they rather be alone forever?

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I understand SYrah. That must be one tough emotional moment, not just for you but also for your mother.

May Allah keep your family together together all the times. Aameen

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this is a really though situation for u. would u mind telling how old u r? and ur mom? are u married or ur siblings?

and with ur mom, was it a rishte naate thing?

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Thank you,

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I'm 23, my sisters are 19 and 27. and my mum is 48. At the time it was difficult to deal with, but we would rather they are re-married and happy, than grow old alone. As I see it, my sisters will marry and live our own lives and won't be able to be there as much for our parents.

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i would find a suitable partner for my surviving parentor encourage them to do so on their own ASAP and get them married...regardless of what ppl say...they have no right to say that i would be wrong in doing so because islamically i wouldnt be wrong in doing this.

there are many reasons for that... the biggest one is that these are our parents... without giving a d*mn about themselves and their needs they do whatever they feel is best for their child...they deserve the same from their kids

furthermore, islam says its desirable to get a widow(er) and divorce(e) remarried... and im selfish in the sense that it would be emotionally upsetting for me if either of my parents were sentenced to a lonely existence... i would not be able to be with them forever and what would come of them once im busy in my own life and family?

for islamic reasons, for the fact that my parents (like all parents) put their kids before not only their wants but also their needs and for my own personal emotional sanity ...remarrying my surviving parent would be the only route i could go with and live with myself

cheers

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thats true but who gives a damn about society...our parents emotional happiness is more important (at least to me) than this messed up society...i shun a that tries to get in the way of my parents' happiness...

everyone should watch the movie "mere baap pehle aap" its on this subject starring paresh rawal, genalia d'souza and akshaye khanna.... akshaye khanna is in love with genalia but he finds out that his widowed father is in love with a lady too...so he arranges for his father's wedding... and as soon as genalia's dad finds out that akshaye khanna is arranged his own father's (paresh rawal) wedding ...he says to akshaye khanna that he has to choose between his own marriage and his dad's marriage... if akshaye khanna wants to marry his daughter he must cancel his dad's wedding ...akshaye khanna chooses to sacrifice his own love and marry his dad off... the day of his dad's marriage his gf's father asks him why he did this and akshaye khanna said because my father did everything in his power for me and he gave up a lot in his life to make sure i had everything and im not so selfish that i will put my own happiness above my father's...i love ur daughter and would still love to marry her if you would agree but no one is more important to me than my father...

that movie made me cry and i totally agree with this sentiment anything ofr my parents happiness...because they would do anything for mine...and i cudnt be happy if i knew my parent was lonely and sad

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i know none of us want to think of this but if our parents are still physically active when one of them dies then they have that need as well... :|

i agree with ya whether the widow(er) is male or female they have the right to remarry