Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

Lifestyle Relationships
1

In our society, how willing a grownup kid would be (lets say 18 +) to force his/her mom or dad to remarry after the death of the other parent.

Somehow it looked upon as a taboo in our society, especially if the kid himself/herself is reaching the age of marriage.

Do you know of any such case. God forbid, if you are in such situation, what would you do? Lets assume that the surviving parent is younger than 55.

2

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

All I can say is this situation would be awkward. :-\

3

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I agree. I know that in our society, if kid is approaching the age of marriage, surviving poarent (especially mothers) would never be willing to go for his/her own marriage. The reason I am asking this question because in case of mother, when all kids are gone , she would be left alone. It would be better if she has someone to take care of her.

4

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

There was such case of one family.

The husband and wife were totally true to each other...the wife got hepatitis c and passed away. There were 3 kids...2 girls 18+ and 1 boy younger...

few months after the death....the uncle decided to marry another older woman..she was in her 40's and was unable to have kids causing her divorce.....so the uncle decided to marry this aunty...

the kids went nuts at first.....they were mad at their dad..... then somehow they understood that it needed to be done.....so the kids agreed........the uncle asked them to participate in the function....but the kids refused plainly.....they went to some relative's house for few days when new bride came..

anyhow.....as times passed.....the kids got along with the new 'mom' well ..she is a nice lady and now they are all living happily together..

5

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I personally don't have a huge problem as long the whole affair is done Islamically.

However, I know a far relative who married a young girl. He is like 55 and she is about 23 or something along those lines.

My parents were not happy about it as she should have married someone her own age. I guess if you're poor then you have no real say/choice in the matter. I just hope she is treated well, iA.

6

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

The kids don’t have to be gone, or do they?!. Does the mom has aids or some kind of diseases which is making the kids go? OR is it because oh Islam gives this mother’s son’s wife the right to claim for a seperate accomodation :halo:.

I find this really offensive! I don’t minds the idea of kids wanting to get their parent married off, infact its good but if for this selfish reason than its just horrible.

7

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

and Godforbid..if such a situation happens to my parents.....if things are possible......i would not have a problem with it....

8

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

awesome ending, alhamdulillah.

Yes, I think kids do not realize that loneliness is a silent killer and sometimes because parent of older kid remarrying seems to be such a big taboo, they resist.

Plus I understand that its extremely hard for kids also to see another woman replacing their own mother.

9

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I think as usual you goofed off in understanding what I am saying and decided to show your ‘politeness’. I mean that when kids get married and gone from that house or moved out because of job or education, surviving parent would be alone.

10

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

Now this is stupidity

may allah keep your parents healthy and give them long healthy life

11

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

Priorities is the key word here. Go figure it out.

12

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

And where did you use that keyword in your post that I should've figured it out?

13

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I think I would encourage my parent to marry again. It would be hard to accept it, would definitely be awkward, but such a young parent should have the company of a spouse. If that doesn't work out then at least the parent has their kids and grandkids to spend the rest of the life with.

14

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I admire your politeness and they way you held off what you really wanted to say. I can translate your post in more crude words if you want. :D

15

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I said it in response to your reply not yr post. A kid can decide if his job is more important than his mother or not.

16

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

ajdlk;fjaskldlf;m

17

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

you have my permeeshun :D

18

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I'm not following what ZareenKhan is going on about....................Personally I don't think I would openly introduce the topic of remarriage, I don't think I can see my parents with anyone else but each other.....it is quite normal to feel overprotective of one's parents especially if one just passed away but maybe with time I would be more open about it..............who knows................its weird to even think about it

19

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

It would be awkward but I would support my parent, as long as they did not get re-married straight away, maybe like 2-3 years after.

20

Re: Attending the nikah of your own mother (or father)

I think I should not tell you about it. Yes single partner feel loneliness.
I don't mind.
But not interested.