I feel terrible having to attend a family friend’s sons wedding where im not happy at all. Ive known both the guy and the girl since we were all kids and this family has been close with mine for years. Unfortunately, this guy has been married before and i really really liked that woman as a person, but due to various circumstances things didnt work out.
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Are they happy with each other?
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Do you feel like you're betraying that woman by attending this wedding?
Anyway, HQ, you're a very sensible person so either have a big heart and be happy for them, or grin and bare it as your presence is most likely required.
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HQ: In your eyes, his ex-wife is good therefore you are little uncomfortable with whole divorce thing. my two cents.
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Aap ko yai kaisay pata chala? 
HQ: I don’t see why you are not happy? If the guy and girl are happy and girl knows about his previous divorce what’s it got to do with you?
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CDG: family friends know more inside information than relatives.
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I think she's saying that she liked the ex-wife, and got along well with her, so she's finding it hard to feel happy for the new wife. Kind of like betraying the ex (who she liked).
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Now I get it. Yeah been there myself…you are not choosing sides by going to his wedding. If this woman was as nice as you say then I am sure she will understand.
It has nothing to do with you so just go and wish them a happy life.
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I think she's saying that she liked the ex-wife, and got along well with her, so she's finding it hard to feel happy for the new wife. Kind of like betraying the ex (who she liked).
I agree with Reha. I still don't see why HQ should be unhappy for a girl and guy who are happy together. Unless ofcourse the last marriage didn't work because of the guy and she feels it was unfair for the ex wife and the new one to be.
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^see the thing is I don't have full details nor I want them but from what I do know, it doesnt seem right to me. I mean everyone is nice, happy etc. but i have this certain feeling in my heart that is not going to let me come across as genuine when I do go to the wedding.
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But wouldn't it be worse if you didn't go? Wouldn't that make the guy and his family feel a bit upset/offended? Not saying thats the main reason to go, but it's their day and sometimes you gotta grin and bare it so that they feel that all they people they love are around them
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If you're close to the ex-wife and she'd feel betrayed if you go then don't go. Although she shouldn't be feeling this way from your attending the wedding.
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What? we attend wedding because we are happy for the couple? ooooops!
I attend wedding because I get to eat Daigee-Qorma and Daigee-Biryani. It has THAT taste that you cant bring to home-made food
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PS: Ok seriously. Do you think you feel more for that woman that the guy himself who married her? I am sure he (and she) moved on because things did not work. If he is happy to move on, you should move on too.
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Yah I suppose, I can go for the food ;)