Re: At my wits ends!
so it wasnt really a fight.
then why not ask him again calmly, wtf did he do with all the money?
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It was a fight, a very big one…it lasted all night and the next day 
… we didn’t talk for a week after this…
I’m still not really talking to him… I asked him a few days ago calmly, and he started of angry but I just stayed quite then he went abit calm and told me it’s in a bussniness account with his accontant?
(same thing as before) I did not say anything.. he made me feel guilty, said his doing all this for me… and so on… I just kept quite..
His trying to be all lovely dovey, but I’m just not feeling it anymore…
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Oh that should be easy then. Tell him to show you the business account statement online. 2 minutes and done. He is doing all this for you so you should make him a nice plate of biryani afterwards.
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I think its cruel to stay in abusive marriages with kids. Your 5 year old is watching all of this and won’t forget it. What exactly are you waiting for or looking for? I don’t understand why you haven’t left yet.
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Do whatever you need to to get out. It won’t get better by you staying. And your children will learn this behaviour if you stay as Reha mentioned above. Open your eyes, get out of the “virtual” fantasy world, and get you sh*t together for the sake of you children.
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First things first. Considering the kind of crazy world we live in. The last thing you want to do is talk to a random guy online, & that too where he can actually see you live. How do you know that he is not somehow recording your Facetime videos & won’t use them to harass you later on? Its a sick world out there.
You are a mother of two now. You have to be more responsible than that. Nothing wrong with talking to a guy. But regardless of what kind of D bag your husband sounds like. You won’t be any different if you are talking to another person while still being in the marriage.
It sounds like you think that him hitting you was justifiable. Because, apparently you rile him up too. No matter what you do. It doesn’t give him or anyone on this earth a right to abuse you like that.
Don’t know about the laws in your country. But, here in the US, a person can get a restraining order against his/her spouse. With all due respect, your mom shouldn’t have just called the cops on your Dad just so he could go to the slammer once in a while. But she should have divorced him. Which you need to seriously think about doing too.
This man has given you a black eye. Stolen your hard earned money twice without providing any proper accountability for it. Texted a prostitute. Who knows if he has slept with one or not. You need to sit down with him & have a serious conversation. If he has been sleeping around. Or even slept once with someone other than you. And, then slept with you later on. Then, you both need to get tested for STDS.
Too many red flags here. Get out of this marriage. If not for yourself, then do it for your innocent kids. They can’t help themselves. But, as a mother you have the power to change your present, which also impacts their future.
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Welcome back! 
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Thank you Sid. Its much appreciated :k:.
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Guppies and guppans can write page after page of advice, but, she will come back in few months with another story of abuse.
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Don’t think I’m going to bother coming back and posting my “stories” as no fu*ker on earth really cares.
Everyone in the world is just a spectator! No one gives a flying toss… knowing my luck, even if I was to follow everyone’s advice I will propbably still find myself in some sad situation as life is cruel to me and I just have to get use to it…
So be happy as I won’t bother to open any such threads on here anymore!!! 
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you come here, you tell us how **** ur life is, how u get beaten up n abused by ur husband, u get all the sympathies and all sorts of free advice from all sorts of experts here on GS which you never seem to follow or make one silly excuse or another why u cannot follow, and then you say no ****er on earth really cares? no one gives a toss?
lol you make me chuckle.
Re: At my wits ends!
she is going through a very difficult phase and for so long. Reactions like these are common in such situations.
We all can give advice but only she feels the pain. May Allah help her and make her situation better.