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Hmm I doubt it’s going on drugs, he never looks like his on drugs, but maybe hookers even though his denying it..he use to gamble a while back, maybe his started that again… I don’t know where it goes, he doesn’t tell me anything.
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No I don’t have any family that will take me in… and my so called friends are also all useless. As always I will have to bear it or sort it out all by myself somehow… for now all I can do is pray and hope for the best.
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Time to pull the trigger on this marriage.
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@queer saw the word “end” and he can’t stop posting here.
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Hmm… did you read the full post? I have asked him, last time I asked him he hit me…’I don’t no about you but I really don’t thinks it worth being on the receiving end of a punch again…
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I’m gonna guess he’s going to hit you when you ask for a divorce too so that’s out as well.
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You need to have an appointment with social services and legal aid will also represent you for free and you can take him to court for stealing your money. Why did you not call the police when he hit you, it is never a one time thing for wife beaters..
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Sane advice. This is exactly what you should do.
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Call this number…
24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline
**0808 2000 247
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How did you managed to have time for the other guy with a new born and a 5 yr old kid?
And babysitting too ?
Why not prioritize the kids first?
Open another account and save your money there without telling him
And toughen up your emotions and once the account have no money , he will leave you since there seems nothing as it looks like he is only for the money
And if ask why no money there, just say on maternity leave and use up the money on kids etc
So much distance , I doubt he will notice whether you still do baby sitting or not
Weird
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set up a hidden camera…and ask your husband all these questions again…when he hits you this time..you will have evidence…you then go to the police and get him locked up.
Also, you should search and find out where his documents/titles/ownership documents etc are, so that you have something of his too…
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My normal hours of work where during the weekend, he has weekends off so I use to work then, now I’m on maternity leave I work the weekends babysitting cash in hand while his at home looking after kids, it’s not a have to job and I do it when ever I want or it’s convenantent to me, the babysitting agency send a notification of job offers and it’s up to me to accept or reject the offer.
I talk to that internet guy between 8-11 while the kids are asleep, my full day and engery is devoted to them, all my earning sweat and tears I can’t give anymore… my husband is at work during the night so I just pass my time chatting to this guy, it’s the only time I get acctual adult conversation and a bit of laughter!
During the day my hubby sleeps sleeps sleeps, he comes home at 3am eats what ever I’ve made and watch’s some tv and then goes to bed around 5am-6am, he then wakes at 2pm gets ready collects are son from school and then goes to work at 5pm…
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Thank you bobby ji 
… but wont social service get involved if I ring these people up.. I don’t feel these people actually help, they cause more stress then help… or maybe I’m wrong…
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Involve the authorities and help yourself.
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I have pic of the black eye and bit marks he caused and I was going to call the police but I just think what’s the point?! My mum use to call the police on dad all the time for his domestic stuff and all the police ever did was lock dad up in a cell for the night and then he would return again in the morning after giving a statement!
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They give you advice and tell you your options and only involve authorities if you like. Your children shouldn’t grow up watching their mom get abused.
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lol bobby! she is just making things up and you!
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Hmm.. I must have tons of time on my hands if I can come up with such stories.. if you don’t believe me that’s fine but no need to accuse me of making stuff up… maybe you can’t believe it because you probably live in a fairy tale land,where no one hurts anyone and everyone is law abiding and kind and genuine, kind hearted, loving souls who go around helping others and everything around them, I however live in reality and in reality sh1t happens… and sh1t is unfortunately happening 
And there you are saying I’m making stuff up…
hmm I really wish I was…
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Hmm… so are they like childline but for abused woman?
His only done this once… I do wind him up and i did hit back… I don’t know if this is really abuse.. it was just a fight…
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It is like everything, even if someone just wants to talk also they tell you what your options might be and what resources you can utilize. They have the website also so take a look at the website.