At my breaking point, I hate my mother.

Krypton · June 10, 2013, 8:08pm

Re: At my breaking point, I hate my mother.

Peace Safinaz

It’s been months since you last spoke to your mother … Yet everything in your life is turning upside-down … Marriage and all … So if your mother really didn’t matter to you … You would be happy … But instead you are upset … THIS IS BECAUSE SHE DOES MATTER TO YOU …

Yet all this time you have been eaten up from the inside, think about how your mother would be feeling … Probably the same or worse …

You say that your mother was not ready to have a family … Then why hate her for that? Rather that should earn her more consideration … You can say, I can tolerate my mother more than I ought to because she was not ready … You know not mature enough … etc, but instead her disability in being able to raise you properly is earning her your hatred instead of your leniency … Look if I saw someone who found it hard to do something … I would not give them a hard time about it … I would only give a hard time to someone who was supposed to be good but didn’t do it right …

Look you obviously want to call her up … And she will obviously be upset with you … And SHE IS EVEN MORE UPSET WITH HERSELF, so no need to remind her … Or give her a hard time … She may blank you, not talk to you, or start off at you again … You need to show that unlike her you have become a mature person … By absorbing all that she can throw at you and say … Yes mum … You are right mum … You say this once … And she will cry and love you for it … And inshaAllah your relationship will increase again …

Your in-laws are less important than your mother … Be less afraid of what they think and more concerned about what she thinks … When she is happy with you your in-laws will see that and see that both of you have changed for the better …

you have the capability to drive people crazy.