At my breaking point, I hate my mother.

[Sara516]

Re: At my breaking point, I hate my mother.

@hareem01

^where did he say that?

psyah’s a big boy, he can respond himself

@psyah

Your in-laws are less important than your mother … Be less afraid of what they think and more concerned about what she thinks … When she is happy with you your in-laws will see that and see that both of you have changed for the better …

@psyah

Peace Sara516

I’m trying to give a practical solution … Now her mother is not on the forum so I can’t tell her what to do … I can only advise the person who has come here … Now she is clearly looking for a way out of her misery, but clearly by being away from her mother and parting on bad terms has not made her feel better.

It’s made her worse … No amount of cartoon hugs will take that feeling away she has to confront the issue not run away from it … If you read what she said … She has tried to run away from it … But things are getting worse … She said she is at her breaking point … So I don’t want that point to be broken … If you don’t either then please let me say what I need to say and you can ignore me instead of starting up a sideways argument …

Aside from the part I’ve quoted above I just don’t agree with what you said earlier–her mother abused her (mental/emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse) throughout her life, it’s caused her lots of issues. For all we know, the mother may not give two hoots and is feeling perfectly fine? I’m not one to condone “blame my parents” syndrome, but the vast majority of adults who are abused/treated badly in their childhood, it carries over into adulthood and it usually takes alot of effort/hard work to move past it and find peace.

I do think OP should take steps to recover her own peace of mind and sanity, and she can decide whether that means to really let her mother go or take your approach.