Couldnt have said it better myself… its lovely how people twist the religion around… in the quran it says even if your wife cheats on you you are not suppose to lay a finger at her or yell at her in a loud manner, but the auntie apparently “forgot” to mention that huh?
So, Aunti was basically suggesting that if you have sabr toward your abusive spouse…he’ll eventually die…and with that you’ll find your much longed-for peace…and your kids will grow up/become independent and successful???
So, peace comes with the brute’s death??? Aunti don’t make much sense.
So, if the woman dies first…will aunti then say that “See, she did sabr and eventually found peace in death. Death brings peace.”
*****Irrespective of when the abusive husband dies…I doubt that Allah would punish a woman for leaving her husband if he continuously abuses her. It’s not like she left him the first time he struck her. She gave him chances, she endured, she stuck around for the sake of her children when she really shouldn’t have (they don’t need an abusive father as a role model). Getting divorced without a strong enough reason…and not giving your marriage a chance…is not right. But Allah HAS allowed us an exit out of extreme situations because He has forbidden oppression for HIMSELF and for His servants!