At least Im married! *snooty*

[zobia]

@candy_apple

I can’t beleive some people actually think that a woman should show “sabr” and stay with a man who continually beats the cra*p out of her.

My dad abused my mother both physically and emotionally for 10 years. If I list here all the things he did to her and that I witnessed, you’d have nightmares. It has affected me so deeply that the trauma of those years will stay with me for a lifetime. I’m SO glad my mother left him. Some women stay for their kids…however any child that is old enough to understand what is happening to their mom would NEVER want her to stay with an abuser if they truly love her.

I have to agree with redvelvet…a woman who leaves her abusive husband after enduring so much anguish and has to learn to raise her children ON HER OWN…is showing sabr. A woman who because she is "divorced’ no longer has “status” in society and is looked down upon by other backward Pakistanis…shows sabr.

If Islam clearly allows divorce in extreme cases such as abuse, why do people still applaud a woman who stays in that type of marriage? By doing so, she sends a message, that it is ok..and its not.

:k:

agree with you that even though divorce is really unlike by ALLAH SWT but the concept exist in Islam for a reason.