I don't see why people are arguing about this so much. What if your husband has already told you that you don't need permission when visiting friends or family? Why is there a need to "ASK" just to make him feel empowered when there's absolutely no need for it. I'll just tell him, like he knows he needs to tell me so none of us are worried when we come back to an empty home. And when you 'inform' the other person, you are pretty much asking him anyway, if he has an issue with you not going anywhere in particular, he'll let you know and you guys can reason/talk it through and if his reasoning is justified, you just don't go.
If he has issues with you visiting your family, then the problem doesn't lie in whether you asked him for permission or not. It runs deeper than that and you'd have to talk it out. That's just not normal and take my word for it, a lot more must be going in the relationship if he's forbidding his wife from visiting her family than it just being a matter of "she didn't ask my permission".
I don't see why people are arguing about this so much. What if your husband has already told you that you don't need permission when visiting friends or family? Why is there a need to "ASK" just to make him feel empowered when there's absolutely no need for it. I'll just tell him, like he knows he needs to tell me so none of us are worried when we come back to an empty home. And when you 'inform' the other person, you are pretty much asking him anyway, if he has an issue with you not going anywhere in particular, he'll let you know and you guys can reason/talk it through and if his reasoning is justified, you just don't go.
If he has issues with you visiting your family, then the problem doesn't lie in whether you asked him for permission or not. It runs deeper than that and you'd have to talk it out. That's just not normal and take my word for it, a lot more must be going in the relationship if he's forbidding his wife from visiting her family than it just being a matter of "she didn't ask my permission".
Yep if your pre-nuptial agreement includes this permission then you have got an open visa and there is no need to ask.
Bad reputation bhee kia buree cheez hay. I am not being sarcastic. I am with you on this one.
And by the way NomiCA has the reputation of being sarcastic in Life1.
This place is full of people with multis. You and NomiCA could be the same person for all I know, just making sure
Multis big turn-off though. I thought people had genuine concerns here when I first started, until I found out what the word ‘troll’ meant.
awwwnnnnnn how mentioning that in religion a wife is supposed to ask for permission jst pretty much shut every1 up and we r all tip-toeing around the whole thing i love it when it happens
personally i will like it if my hubby chained me up to the bed b4 leaving for work qissa khatam, he knws where im at!
The real question is how would you react if he says No to you?
Wife: Honey me and my friends will go out for shopping and then grab some lunch today.
Husband: Babe I think its best if you guys stay at home and have fun indoors.
Wife: (what would you say??)
The real question is how would you react if he says No to you?
Wife: Honey me and my friends will go out for shopping and then grab some lunch today.
Husband: Babe I think its best if you guys stay at home and have fun indoors.
Wife: *Oh jaaan, I like your idea. But they have already made the plan. Well, few of my friends are hot. You would love meeting them. You should also join us ;) *
If I recall correctly, you previously gave someone advice about creating a fake profile on facebook to stalk a potential, did you not? Wahey a transformation from a stalker to a mullah. Great stuff.
If I recall correctly, you previously gave someone advice about creating a fake profile on facebook to stalk a potential, did you not? Wahey a transformation from a stalker to a mullah. Great stuff.
I should get my popcorn ready.
I just provided these hadiths since they were relevant to the thread. If you don't want to agree with these, then please don't.
Regarding the facebook stalking, since the OP was concered about the character of the guy, I advised that. And if you know the protocols of arranged marriages, behind the scenes background checks are done for the guy in order to know about his character, personality, attitute, habits. Since someone in the thread advised the OP to add the guy on facebook and she hesitated since it was too early, I just mentioned that adding the guy in the fake profile was an option since the OP was very very concered about the guy's character and wanted to know about the ways to find out the same.
I have not asked you to agree with me on any thing. Like everyone else on GS, I just convery my views and opinions which are not necessarily same as yours. Please ignore if you don't like them :).
I just provided these hadiths since they were relevant to the thread. If you don't want to agree with these, then please don't.
Regarding the facebook stalking, since the OP was concered about the character of the guy, I advised that. And if you know the protocols of arranged marriages, behind the scenes background checks are done for the guy in order to know about his character, personality, attitute, habits. Since someone in the thread advised the OP to add the guy on facebook and she hesitated since it was too early, I just mentioned that adding the guy in the fake profile was an option since the OP was very very concered about the guy's character and wanted to know about the ways to find out the same.
I have not asked you to agree with me on any thing. Like everyone else on GS, I just convery my views and opinions which are not necessarily same as yours. Please ignore if you don't like them :).
^ Yeah let us throw in hadiths left, right and centre on EVERY topic, hadiths are the answer to every situation. I didn't know this was was the R&S forum.
You REALLY don't need to justify the fake profile facebook business. I totally get it. Hmmm and the last time I checked, advising someone to do something was different from giving your opinion. Maybe I am mistaken.
Believe me, as long as my sanity is intact I will not be agreeing with you. Unfortunately, I find it hard to ignore stupidity, so don't bank on it.
a husband is his wife's "qawwaam" [provider] but NOT a master or owner. there is equality in with respect in the relationship. wife does NOT require husband's permission to go to her parents but deffo needs to discuss it with him to work out feasibility and the logistics. this is in order to minimize the disruptions in the family due to her absence. husband, actually, must facilitate her trip.
I have not asked you to agree with me on any thing. Like everyone else on GS, I just convery my views and opinions which are not necessarily same as yours. Please ignore if you don't like them :).
Ashy! Don't you know yehi tu duniya ka sab c bara gunnah hai, taubah taubah how dare you have a diff opinion than other members?! buhat galt baat.
