Re: asking for something.
Wrote my thoughts but forgot to write what I actually was.
My abu helps his siblings financially, no matter what. All of them are married and have grown up kids and couple of the kids of my eldest phophoo have been married now. They still tell us that we don't do any ihsan on them. Its our farz to take care of them as we live in USA. When we lived in Pakistan, my abu used to help there too. My parents have treated abu's siblings as their own kids, but we have never demanded anything huge once we three have jobs now and the younger one just graduated from high school. But they demand from my parents as mere ami abu ne unka karza dena hai. My ami is an ideal bahu one wish for. She has spent her whole life with her susral and never complained till now. Coz ab paani sar se ooper chala gaya hai. I know topic was door-paray k relatives but I'm talking about my very own chachoos and phophoos.
And when we went for my wedding last year, night before my baraat, my phophoo took me too kitchen with her as she wanted to eat something and it was over midnight, and I was being all emotional coz of shadi. I thought she'll console me you know but NO. She said why I haven't brought her phone and camera and gadgets for her and her kids, she said you guys have these smart phones, ipods, ipads and my sister bought me a Canon professional camera(as she loves taking photos and ofcourse of herself) and she wanted me and her to buy her same camera. I was all in tears as I already was upset coz of leaving parents/siblings and adjusting to new people. I said "phophoo ge, ami abu always send you money every month" and she said, "well, unhon ne toh karna he karna hai, why you didn't bring us anything?". And they've never ever given us a gift, NEVER. but always expecting us to give them. And my abu helped them settle their own business and she's a school teacher. They're not super rich but enough to afford these things.
