In order to make sure the potential rishta isn’t bull****ting about their education would you ever consider asking him/her for their academic transcripts? And if so how would you ask them…without it sounding like you don’t trust them…
Also if they claim they make a certain amount of $$ and you just can’t seem to believe it…would you ask for a paystub lol 
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Umm in my family everything is checked before going forward to even an engagement. My cousin (phuppho's daughter) just had her baat pakki with this guy from Michigan. The investigation lasted like 5 6 months before the baat pakki stage came. My family found out, which university the guy attends for masters, which university he went for bachelors, where he works how much he makes, what his dad does and everything. We just don't give away our daughters like that. Though marrying outside the family is rare. So we all know what is the situation of guys inside the family.
Pm me the info, i’ll investigate it for you 
so how much he said he is earning?
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Aisha, would the family also ask about any family illnesses?? Cause you can't investigate that! Would you make the person go get checked out??
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^ you surly can but then you have to take there answer. There is no other way around it other than word of mouth. its had to get medical records in fact almost impossible unless lerka himself get the records and hand it over.
At the time of my Rishta, my Father in law and Brother in law almost verified everything. I was living alone in states and that was a big turn off for many parents (and girls) in Pakistan. luckily they did not just say NO, they followed the lead and verified everything. I was not in Pakistan but my parents did take all the degrees, certificates etc. In addition + they also left an album of pictures ..at different stages of my life (school, university, jobs, conferences etc)
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Pm me the info, i'll investigate it for you :D
so how much he said he is earning?
lol....are you a private investigator?? :D
He said he was a chemical Eng, earning $80,000 right out of school?? Is that possible??
And yea I guess the only thing you can do is trust the person when it comes to health...cause you can't access the info yourself! It would be pretty funny to ask someone for their medical records....
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In my family everyone has got their medical certificate stating they are free from infectious diseases especially HIV/Aids test. I also have a certificate. We present these to whoever asks for rishtey from our family and asks about medical so obviously we ask the same in return when inquiring about a guy from outside the family.
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Malika .. i think asking about pay and degree is completely acceptable and nothing is wrong with that ... but yea medical history is geting a lil personal in my opinion ... as far as making 80,000 is concerned aham ahem thats pretty much unheard of for ppl coming right out of skool ... the only way he might be making anything close to it is either if hes workin in the oil fields in alberta with alot of over time ... those ppl make around about 70+ so with overtime its possible ... but yeah i'd say the chances of that sorta earnings are pretty slimmmm
lol....are you a private investigator?? :D
He said he was a chemical Eng, earning $80,000 right out of school?? Is that possible??
And yea I guess the only thing you can do is trust the person when it comes to health...cause you can't access the info yourself! It would be pretty funny to ask someone for their medical records....
Chemical Eng ...working where? if US then yes, every possibility.
AD kuch zyaada hee documentary proof nahi maanga jaata aap kee family mein ? 
waisay it is always better to be safe then sorry, i dont think i would have any hesitations if the potential rishta asked me for that cuz i would ask the same !!
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shouldn’t be a problem
as lnog as ure willing to undergo the same amount of scrutiny. because girls aren’t hypocrites aren’t they?
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is it only for guys, or gal's credit history, credentials are also examined?
should be two way traffic…why only guys? 
i think it should go both ways, i am surprised you asked this question ZOBIA 
That is the way Memons work. 
Yeh see if you would ask the same then it is ok for them to ask you as well.
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thanks for the replies! In my mind asking for this info seemed a little rude at first, because if felt like I wanted proof that what he was saying was true...and I felt that it showed we didn't trust the person! But I guess everyones does this, so I feel much better!!
That is the way Memons work. :/
Yeh see if you would ask the same then it is ok for them to ask you as well.
I do agree with you madame and I do know how MEMONs work as majority of my friends are memon and I do know the workings,
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Now that I think about it....I wonder why they didn't ask me for all that info??
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How about if you don't ask for proof like you put it but give this responsibility to your dad. Let the elders handle it. This way you wont be scrutinised and they also will think that this is something this khandan does and is normal.