we have a very good understanding, that does not mean we agree on everything, but we know what is no go topics/perspectives are and each others likes dislikes etc enough to navigate together without clashes.
I will defintely tell the kids they are adopted, that is the right thing to do from a religious, psychological and trust perspective. we have started telling them already.
Fear of them leaving us is not a major concern, but I suppose that can happen. seen enough people leave their parents or mistreat them that adopted or not, one has to be ready for that possibility, build enough of a relationship that it is less likely and be financially independent regardless. Thats what my folks did they dont have to depend on any us financially, emotionally abandonment can have its own issues, but why worry about it.
No the questions dont bother me.
Nice answers thank you.
As you adopted so I think you can understand it better and answer it better.
Kia un logon ko jin kay pass daulat achchi khasi ho laikin aulaad(ain) bhi hon phir bhi kum uz kum aik ghareeb buchchay ko adopt kerna chahyay yank unko jo yateen aur yaseer hon takay unki madad ho ya wo itna achcha care naheen kar sakain gay?