as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

[Dushwari]

i always tell my mother, i will marry somebody who will not allow his parents to interfere with our married life and so goes for my parents.

of course, parents wont like it.

my question to teh married, guppies and guppans is this: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4), out, O U T of ur married life and decisions u make in it?

(p.s. i understand and will welcome hypothetically, parents advice and blessing, but cannot see myself becoming a follower of whateevr suggestions they will have for me or for my spouse)

[dhobi_bhai]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

@Dushwari

i always tell my mother, i will marry somebody who will not allow his parents to interfere with our married life and so goes for my parents.

Jee, Bismillah.

[Ex-Guppan]

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^^ Dhobi bhai, u r so funny :D

[Dushwari]

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ageye bolo dhobi... tumhara ghat mey dum nahee heye kiya??
dont' tell me that men dont want that interference from any parent as well, if it borders on and purely becomes or is undue interference.

@dhobi_bhai

Jee, Bismillah.

[dhobi_bhai]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

@Dushwari

ageye bolo dhobi... tumhara ghat mey dum nahee heye kiya?? dont' tell me that men dont want that interference from any parent as well, if it borders on and purely becomes or is undue interference.

Muhtarma, mein nay to kuch bola bhi nahin hai aur aapnay abhi sey apni cHuRiyaan aur chaQuu nikaal kar tayaar kar liyey hain. Shaadi kay baad to Allah hee behtar karey hamaray mazloom sey Bhai Sahab ka. Allah miyan ki gaayein ko pata nahin kitni aur dushwarian sehni parengee is zindagi mein.

[Impulse]

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@dhobi_bhai

Muhtarma, mein nay to kuch bola bhi nahin hai aur aapnay abhi sey apni cHuRiyaan aur chaQuu nikaal kar tayaar kar liyey hain. Shaadi kay baad to Allah hee behtar karey hamaray mazloom sey Bhai Sahab ka. Allah miyan ki gaayein ko pata nahin kitni aur dushwarian sehni parengee is zindagi mein.

you’re funny

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

i think its best to not discuss what goes on b/w husband and wife (ie discussion, fights etc) with parents. It's best not to ask parents for advice on marital issues either because most likely whatever marital adivce they give u will be biased. Matters should be discussed between husband and wife ONLY and not with parents.

[Sara516]

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He has no problem with it, why should anyone else object?

[Dushwari]

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this is what i was hoping for someone to say....

thanks Angel eyes!

best

dush

@AnGeL EyEs

i think its best to not discuss what goes on b/w husband and wife (ie discussion, fights etc) with parents. It's best not to ask parents for advice on marital issues either because most likely whatever marital adivce they give u will be biased. Matters should be discussed between husband and wife ONLY and not with parents.

[Afridi786]

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put them in a retirement home far far away from your home.

[Afridi786]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

@AnGeL EyEs

i think its best to not discuss what goes on b/w husband and wife (ie discussion, fights etc) with parents. It's best not to ask parents for advice on marital issues either because most likely whatever marital adivce they give u will be biased. Matters should be discussed between husband and wife ONLY and not with parents.

that goes for everybody unless they go to couples therapy.

[Krypton]

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i think parents shud know not to interfere
tis none of their busines...

[Afridi786]

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not interfere, but to give advice, i'm sure women ask their moms' opinions when they r having marriage problems.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Afridi786

not interfere, but to give advice, i'm sure women ask their moms' opinions when they r having marriage problems.

hell no....i would ask my mom on advice on other things....never on issues concerning me and my husband.

Reason: because if he did something to hurt me.....I would never want her to look at my husband in a bad way. Things between a husband and wife will sort itself out (hopefully) but parents wont let go of the fact that their child was hurt by their significant other's behavior.

[Orpheus]

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...her AGAIN.

[Dushwari]

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u have anything more solid to say, then say it

other wise, please do not waste the space on my thread.

@Orpheus

...her AGAIN.

[RoCKiSTaN]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

@Dushwari

i always tell my mother, i will marry somebody who will not allow his parents to interfere with our married life and so goes for my parents.

of course, parents wont like it.

my question to teh married, guppies and guppans is this: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4), out, O U T of ur married life and decisions u make in it?

(p.s. i understand and will welcome hypothetically, parents advice and blessing, but cannot see myself becoming a follower of whateevr suggestions they will have for me or for my spouse)

That won’t happen - not in our culture. If you really want that then you should marry some one out here in America/UK etc… parents will always be around till death do them apart. It’s how the ball rolls.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: as married couples, how do u keep ur parents (all 4) out of ur married life?

@RoCKiSTaN

That won't happen - not in our culture. If you really want that then you should marry some one out here in America/UK etc... parents will always be around till death do them apart. It's how the ball rolls.

Not if you dont tell them every detail of your personal affairs. After marriage, parents dont have a right to meddle in your married life and as a married woman/man you dont have to run to your parents for everything. If you involve them....then that is a different story. It's up to the couple how to handle such a situation. If you keep them out of it from the begininng then they wont be involved. Let it be known from the start.

[Mamaof3]

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Your parents will forever care too much and want the very best for you. Now that I have my own kiddies, I can understand SO much better. Some advice...ALWAYS listen to what they say and thank them for saying it. If you disagree, so what, no need to get all annoyed, just thank them for their caring and convcern...they will feel cherished as they should be and they will worry less.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Mamaof3

Your parents will forever care too much and want the very best for you. Now that I have my own kiddies, I can understand SO much better. Some advice...ALWAYS listen to what they say and thank them for saying it. If you disagree, so what, no need to get all annoyed, just thank them for their caring and convcern...they will feel cherished as they should be and they will worry less.

caring and giving advice is different. of course any good parent would do that. but actively being involved in one's marital affairs (when not asked to be involved) is totally different.