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nadz dil bra kro :)
as a wife would you be ok with this?
^^ lol she did put a disclaimer to say this isnt about her
I would contribute towards the machine with in laws or buy it. Especially if im guna b using it loads aswell
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Why did you moved to pak when your husband could had made more money in uk and send some money back home which would had help them
If I were you. I would buy the washing machine right away. Just for a moment think what your parents were in similar situation. Would you had still come here and asked if you should buy it or not
Washingmachine isn't expensive so buy it... What I don't understand is why is your husband asking you to use money from your jahaiz?? If he even can't buy a washingmachine what the hell is he doing over there if he can have a good life in the UK...If I was you I would go back to UK.
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My parents give me money to furnish my room…its a gift to us and they’ve already gifted something to inlaws. Inlaws cannot afford a washing machine and hubby suggests buying the machine with the leftover money.
The washing machine is used by the entire family including said woman…its not like you’re buying a TV for your inlaws’ room or a luxury handbag for your MIL. I’d buy the washing machine so I could have clean clothes whenever I needed them.
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To be fair u never really knw wat u wud do till ur actually in that situation. I think if i wasnt cmfortable with giving the money then id ask if going halves was an option?? If not then well i suppose u have no choice but to get it.
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Washingmachine isn't expensive so buy it... What I don't understand is why is your husband asking you to use money from your jahaiz?? If he even can't buy a washingmachine what the hell is he doing over there if he can have a good life in the UK...If I was you I would go back to UK.
dude take achill pill,it is notabout her but some friend....
and i just want to answer your if i was you comment...if i was her,it wouldnt be easy for me to just leave my husband behind and move with my little girls...you would only understand that if you are married.
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buy the damn washing machine else BAHOO has to give undergarments to naukarani to wash, that will be even bigger issue.
just saying…
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nvm
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nvm
sssshhhhhhhhhhhhh everyone quiet
STA is trying to say something....
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ha ha. i wrote and then edited.
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u should happily give the money to buy machine, and it is not a big deal. inlaws are also part of your family, feel like a family and not about my money or their money.
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i think you signed up for a sour deal when u decided to marry ur husband and agreed to live with the inlaws and that too in pakistan. sorry :-I sucks to be u
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there is no 'mere-tera' between husband and wife. it's hamara ! if my mom gives me something,it is for OUR use, if his mom gives him money, it' again for US (read: mine :D) but generally it depends wife ka dil kitna bara hai to skip all these petty details and move ahead in peace where everyone is happy
on a side note, if the husband's salary is 15000rs, advise him not to invest in washing machine. bijli ka bill kon dega ?
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Watch Durr-e-shehwar you will know what will happen if you don't buy the washing machine :P
in short, she was washing the clothes with the "BAT" thing
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15,000 Rs a Month!!!???? POOR LAD! :O
Ok firstly, the money was given to you from your parents exclusively to decor your bedroom, so yes, it should go towards that... BUT If the person's husband requested her nicely or discussed it with her and he is not able to afford one right now, BE UNDERSTANDING (jeez, is it that hard?) and help him. Don't put him in an awkward position infront of his parents...and if your friend wants she can tell him to buy her something later for their bedroom when he does have the money..and she won't need to wash the clothes by hands and will also be using it herself and will make her life more comfortable..
I swear girls need 24/7 access to google these days to solve personal household problems :LB:
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Watch Durr-e-shehwar you will know what will happen if you don't buy the washing machine :P
in short, she was washing the clothes with the "BAT" thing
ha ha. i know what do you mean.
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google or gupshup?
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Personally, I think the parents of the girl are wise to her situation. They have given her more money than she needs. She is in control now to make the lifestyle of the inlaws better. It is power money. The objection I have is with the husbands suggestion. The girl now can decide what she wants to do. But whatever she does, she should use that to empower herself. She should decide on the actual machine to buy. She should herself go to her inlaws and suggest it and say that she wants to buy the household a washing machine.
The problem is that hubby is trying to suggest how to spend the money probably when he was not even asked for the suggestion. No need to spend the whole amount, buy something good but no need to adopt a fazool kharch attitude and spend just because you have it. Be wise and try to get a machine within 70% of the money and keep the rest for your own ad-hoc needs.
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I will not feel ok. as i m not a wife of anyone. 