what would you do, if your parents give some money towards some furnishings in your room in your new house. you dont need to use all the money, theres quite abit left over, and your husband suggests why dony you use some of the money for a washing machine for the new house…which your parents havent given you money for. its for your room. not to kit up your inlaws house, which yes you will also be living in. husbands reasoning is that his parents will be finding it hard to afford everything as they dont have money much at the moment. which is true. and his wages are apporx only 15000 rupees a month and washing machines are expensive and they have children to, to provide for.
DISCLAIMER-really not my problem. but from what i do know, husband isnt laalchi type. but i dont think the person whose issue this is, feels ok with parting with money given to her and her husband by her parents for their room. and feels parents didnt intend money for furnishing up the inlaws house. they have already given some money to inlaws to buy a gift for the house anyway.
Well technically no one should have a right over the woman's personal money and how she chooses to spend it. However if the washing machine is also going to be used for washing the woman, her children and her hubby's clothes along with those of the rest of the house it's a device that benefits all and would be a good purchase! The woman should use her better judgement in this scenario
To be fair, if my parents give me money to spend on my room (and they have given gifts to the inlaws separately) then that money should only be spent for the purpose it was given for. I would return the remaining if a handsome amount is left over. But then I know my parents wouldn't take it back so I'll just keep it for future expenditures.
Now if the husband comes up and suggests the washing machine idea and I know I will be using the washing machine then there will be no issue from my side. Although I wouldn't have an issue even if I wasn't using the machine. So I would just call up my parents and ask them if it's okay that they we use the money on something other than the room. And I don't think they would say no to that.
Money has to get spent anyway so why not spend it on something everyone can benefit from.
if i would be in this situation i would have bought a washing machine happily as its my house also i wont worry why my inlaws are getting benefit of it, i think if husband is unable to to buy something and u can without a second thought you should trust me life just gets better by sharing
My parents gives me cash on different occassion as they know my husband is still struggling i always share with inlaws as i know my husband is their elder son and he is struggling...so i buy something for my daughter and share the cash with my husband, he never asks me but i know what is the situation and whatever i spend Allah paak fills me again :)
I think the girl should ask her parents if they would be fine with her spending the money on a washing machine. Most likely the answer will be Yes, but since they gave her the money for a specific purpose, they have to be asked before the money is spent on something else.
i think when parents give money on some occassion its not necessary that you spend all on one thing only, and asking your parents (ofcourse they will not say NO) will just put a bad impression which should be avoided.
i think when parents give money on some occassion its not necessary that you spend all on one thing only, and asking your parents (ofcourse they will not say NO) will just put a bad impression which should be avoided.
Yeah what bad impression? And on whom? The parents or the husband? :/
It would be wiser to buy the washing machine, if they cant afford it. But if she really doesnt want to, then tell them shes saving it for something else she needs.
feels parents didnt intend money for furnishing up the inlaws house. they have already given some money to inlaws to buy a gift for the house anyway.
I know many parents (including mine) who give money to their daughters and mention that it's for something specific (ie. furnishings for the room in this case). However, I have NEVER heard of a situation where parents get upset because "extra" money was used to purchase something else.
Did this woman's parents specifically tell her that they do not want her using that money for anything else except furnishings for her room? If they did then her "reasoning" makes sense. But if they did not, then she needs to stop using their "intent" as an excuse.
its for your room. not to kit up your inlaws house, which yes you will also be living in.
If this woman is going to be nit-picky about things like her parents assumed intent regarding the extra money.....then she should be nit-picky and realize that the room that has been given to her and her husband by her parents is not theirs. The entire house belongs to the parents (I assume its the parents whose names are on the deed). So if she's going to be so nit picky then she should have saved the entire amount from her own parents until she truly gets her "own room".
** If the woman herself doesn't want to spend the money on the washing machine, then that's her right. Then she should be honest and just say that it's HER choice. But in my opinion, dragging her parents into this issue with her husband will only creative negative feelings towards them from her husband/in-laws side.
I wouldn't mind spending my money to purchase a washing machine if its needed in the household. Everyone can take benefit of using it, including me. I am sure my in laws wouldn't ask me to pay for electric ka bill if they pay it, or that roti that's made for me and kids in their house. Ghar sab ka hai to why this Yours or Mine. Everyone should contribute to make life better and easier for everyone to live in that house.
Why buying a washing machine is not a good idea? the money was given by the parents for furnishing, but who would prefer furnishing/decorating when the basic necessities are absent. A woman is more beautiful when her thoughts and actions are bigger.
I don't think it's a big deal.. esp if the money was given for furnishings and something else **useful **to the house was bought with what was left over..
^ because it is not to be spent on the inlaws solely. A washing machine or such commodity is useful for the household. Nothing seems to be really objectionable about that, apart from the particular person in question herself, who might be a little uncomfortable spending her money on something that could be used by the whole family.
no its not bad if you buy a washing machine, money doesn´t matter, what matters is your relation,
after all you are living with them too, you will not make a castle with 10000, a washing machine can be bought with 10000,
