I know it’s Ramadan and I should be not saying this. But I can’t help it! I am going to try my best to be polite and get over the rant!
So I tried to make a suji ka halwa yesterday by looking at the online recipie, which I admit I tried to follow the recipie as exactly said. Which was to roast the samolina first in a pan until it was light brown. Anyhow I had the suspicion it went wrong and in the end it was dark brown halwa.
Meanwhile my husband was skyping with his parents and I bring the halwa to my husband .. He starts laughing by looking at it and I join him too just for fun. FIL asks why are you laughing, and show him the halwa! He goes, yeh Kya hai? Yeh halwa nae lagata and u need proper training blah blah! I told him I tried to follow a recipie and it didn’t turn out well!
So today again while skyping with his Parents, My FIL goes bashing my cooking skills? What the hell? He thinks we do takeaways everyday as I don’t know how to cook etc! I know am not a perfect cook but I can still make things! We hardly do takeaways .. Only once in a while. They literally do outings and proper restaurant eating every other day! My husband in the meanwhile was listening in and wasn’t really standing up, until the very end of convo, he meekly said nahi aisi baat nahin Hai, khana bana leti hai.. Then he goes acha bana leti hai to acha nae banta hoga! What the hell does he think? Then my hubby goes, acha kyun nae banana! Hum acha khate hain.. Then he goes phir halwa kyun nahi acha bhana? If she can use her mind then why didn’t halwa come out correctly! My hubby goes, it did! She tried again and it turned out great! My FIL goes really? Sahi bana tha? OMG! What does he think of himself? Your daughter is stupid, litterate and has no education! She dropped out of school in pk and wanted to be home! While I got married straight off as soon I finished my masters thesis and that too from one of the best universities! Yes I can cook and sometimes I cook very great dishes! But am not perfect! I have problem with roti but am trying! You learn things through trial and error! Your daughter is badtameez and obviously know cooking because she was home all her life! She lacks manners obviously you couldn’t instil it in her! What right you have to bash me?
And my hubby doesn’t really speak up! What’s the point in speaking up in the end? There are other things too, my FIL tries to control his son!
This weekend I went shopping with my hubby after so much hard push and literally had to beg him to do his shopping! He doesn’t like shopping., so thank god, we ended by buying lots of stuff for him which will last him long. At home, during Skype, my hubby tells his FIL what he bought. The man just listens then goes does this shop has this n that because I am going to buy that when I come there! Selfish much? They hardly do any shopping for my hubby even before wedding! My hubby had basic wardrobe but they wouldn’t shop for him than compared to his other sons n daughter! Arrrgh!
He think he is the king! During wedding he demanded that we give him gold ring? Does he know its haram to wear gold in Islam! Buddha!
He has no respect for my parent! I have no respect for that man!
How do I speak up this to my hubby to stand up and have his own thoughts! Without sounding negative!
