redvelvet, I appreciate your advice. However, I don't think I have any elders I can lean on, if you mean it like that. I mean, most of my family IS in Pakistan, and most I have not gotten into contact with. As for delaying, my family says they can wait a year at the moment, but that's pretty much it.
Thats good enough. Buying yourself time is the starting point and use that period for continously trying to convince them to extend further...e.g start a degree that requires 3-4 years for completion etc.
I have to ask one thing though Crystal, why do you seem almost resigned to this? If I didnt want something at all, I would fight for it, even if it meant being exiled. First of all, you father and his family are not in your life and the only family you have is your moms which you have said above is in Pakistan..so who are you worried about being exiled from???