arranged marriages

[theway]

Re: arranged marriages

@star4u

but i dont think its right to speak to him before our nikkah as it will be like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship… thats not right

the only guy i would ever speak to is my husband and what if, god forbid, we dont get married at the last minute, then that would have meant that i have spoken to another guy before marriage

obviously one does have to speak to guys but only if its work related otherwise theres no need to socially interact with guys in my opinion

thats my opinion… i knwo many will disagree

:k:

@star4u

you have never spoken to your husband before marriage…

after signing the nikkah papers in the wedding hall, you still dont speak to each other…

then on the wedding night… you will have to talk to each other… how do you create convo and wouldnt you feel a bit scared or nervous at first…

just the thought is sooo scary that how will you live with a person who youve never spoken to before

isi mein to charm hai.

[redvelvet]

Re: arranged marriages

@Gina

No no you ALL have it wrong! He is supposed to lift her veil and sing ‘chaudvi ka chaand ho’ and then shower her with rose-petals and do her ‘tareefs’ tell her how beautiful she looks in that 7-shades-lighter-than-her-real-skin foundation, hold her hand and and tareef that, then hand her the moon dikhai present. Then tell her how much you spent on the wedding, clothes, menu etc.

LOL

[Nina85]

Re: arranged marriages

@NomiCA

…a successful troll i must say…“pat my own back”

now there needs to be a thread…on what to do and how to do…and have fun…

No, I meant is she serious about her comment…why would a married couple keep their clothes on??

[Sara516]

Re: arranged marriages

@sarab

Well wheres the fun in that? Or is it now haraam to show your naked body to your husband as well as belly dance for him as well as share a cup with him as well as eat off the same plate? Gosh this place has some some really uptight people, and I should imagine very boring marriages.

and i still can’t get over how dancing for your husband is degrading or “characterless woman”

[firenze]

Re: arranged marriages

@Sara516

and i still can’t get over how dancing for your husband is degrading or “characterless woman”

she is being sarcastic i think, their is a thread in religion forum regarding doing dirty dance for hubby.

[Sara516]

Re: arranged marriages

Oh I know it was a joke but there are people who genuinely believe that!