Afia, Shireen, and other people who never met their spouse before the wedding, maybe this is how you guys were raised, to accept that it's not necessary to meet and know your partner before tying the knot in order to have a successful marriage. However, many people raised in the States are not so acccepting of that. While I don't buy into the idea of living with ones bf/gf before marriage at all, I could never marry someone I've never spoken to or met. Honestly, I don't think i could ever have that "great attitude" or anything of the sort. It's a different time, different culture :)
so true…im open to semi-arranged marriages…meaning im open to meeting ppl my family introduces me 2…after that…i have to get to know him on my own. Besides with me my family would nvr make a decision for me. they would only guide me.
It’s all about the environment in which you were raised. If a girl was raised to believe that you don’t need to have any contact with someone in order ot have a happy marriage, then she would not have any problem with that. Even if, God forbid, a marriage were not to work out, I don’t think that would be a factor in the failure. I always thought it was strange but lately I’ve become more and more understanding of why such a close relationship between two people who are not bound ot each other legally at all is frowned down upon, even though I could never practice it msyelf.
Decreased contact between an engaged couple lowers the chances of getting too attached to each other. You never know what life will throw at you, especially when it comes to relationships. You can promise to marry someone, be engaged to them for your entire life (as is the case soemtimes), but something happens and they are not able to be together. By keeping your distance emotionally, you lower that risk of getting hurt, of getting ur hopes up and being blinded by emotions that can lead you astray later on. Believe me, there’s nothing worse than a broken heart
So yeah… semi-arranged is good. It’s a great way to balance two different cultures :k:
