Re: Arranged Marriages - Time Savers?
I don't care much for love stories. I've seen people who are in love till the end. I think enough of men and women to say that they are capable of loving for an entire lifetime. And, I think enough of life to want more than the "good old dull arranged marriage"
And, everything ends in tragedy at the end. We all die. That doesn't mean that we should all kill ourselves the moment we are born.
Re: Arranged Marriages - Time Savers?
Those who are afraid of loosing usually never succeed!
loosing a 5 day test match is no better loosing one day match!
love may be overated but it does exist and their is nothing better than lving your life with your loved one!
Re: Arranged Marriages - Time Savers?
And, everything ends in tragedy at the end. We all die. That doesn't mean that we should all kill ourselves the moment we are born.
I think it's more often in the good old dull arranged marriages that you find true love. In the so-called 'love marriages', all you often find is infatuation and all sorts of manipulation.
Marriage is meant to be dull. It cannot survive as an institution otherwise.
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Interesting posts so far. I have to stand up for arranged marriages. Why do people believe that arranged means dull or boring or no love? The core of both arranged and love marriages are the same. It's not as if the daily married lives of arranged couples are sooo different than love couples. Once you're married, it's pretty much the same. Sorry to be vulgar, but what do people think--that arranged couples are frigid? That they don't have passionate sex? That they sit like strangers on their sofas when they watch TV? That they don't go out and have a good time?
The only difference is how the people initially met, and maybe waited for their engagements or nikahs before they started getting lovey dovey with each other. The success of the marriage lies in the hands of the partners. If they are willing to give love and respect, they will get love and respect.
I had an arranged marriage, and Alhamdulillah, I am blissfully happy. My husband and I are totally in love with one another, and we are more romantic than the average love couple we see. The intensity is the same, if not more. I think love marriages are good as well, however, it always amazes me when a couple who was soooo madly in love before (years and years of dating and probably intimacy) end up having the messiest divorce. They can't even claim that they "didn't know this and this" about their spouses. What could be the big problem? Love marriage is definitely not a guarantee for a happy or exciting marriage.
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PCG, Oh Its all trouble, arranged or love. One way or the other, we as humans have the tendency to experience the misery of life through something or especially another mortal after registering with the constitution of marriage. As one of my favorite writers, Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, : “Is not marriage an open question, when it is alleged, from the beginning of the world, that such as are in the institution wish to get out, and such as are out wish to get in?"
Getting married may not be hard initially, but the work it requires to keep it intact is a mystery of its own. They find many faults in us, and we in them, before or after, doesn’t matters. I’m not going to give you any hopes about love either. It’s too pure a perception, to even imagine its actual existence on this humanoid planet. But of course if luck is on your side, you may end up with someone to your liking, going with arranged is maybe safer (no guarantee ) but hey you have more people to run him thru a cross-check for you. So it can be a time saver for sure. Just make sure you give your list of ‘should be’ and ‘shouldn’t be’ like this and that to parents. In the end always keep in mind, we idealist girls that opt for higher skies, should always and always expect that the IQ of the guy will always be a notch down compared to our standards. Cuz baby, its really hard, to dig them rare gems out of their hiding caves, unless u’re real darn lucky! Oh and even if they may appear all that, but once u actually start living with them: “God forbid and have mercy on us women!” They are mostly rotten eggs to the core! 
I say death to all men (except our brothers/fathers/cousins and other men that are actually gentlemen… though rare…)
Till then,
Daysee Behna 